imstuckinatree3 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 There is a small resturant down the road from where i live that i go to probably eat at 2 or 3 times a month. There is a waitress there that can honestly stop me in my tracks. I can tell that she is a good girl and not all about partying, which i like, by the way that she presents herself. She has only been my waitress once in all of the times that i have been there. She was very nice and friendly and couldn't be more beautiful. So heres my question. I know that waitresses are paid to look good and be nice to you. Would it be a waste of time to try and get her number? I just feel that i have to at least do something. Should i go for it or not, and if not, how should i go about doing it.
MJR Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 It's most certainly possible, but you have to get her out of that customer curtousy mode by evoking conversatrion on something not work related that she has an opinion on. Doesn't really matter what it is so long as it touches on her unique identity and not her career. If you don't touch on anything too personal, you'll open up an opportunity to have some genuine conversation which can esculate into a phone number and a date.
crosswordfiend Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 This is a tough call. When you go and are not seated in her section, does she come over and say hi? That's usually the best sign. If she is only being friendly to you for the tips, she may freak out if you ask her out. How important is it for you to be able to go back to the resto? The times I've been successful with waitresses usually started with chance meeting around town - it's neutral territory and not as awkward for her.
MaxManwell Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 It'll be about as much a waste of time as asking out any other over confident attractive woman with a lust for money. You call personally I'd just find a quiet time ask her about something then either leave your number or ask her out somewhere specifically for after work. Anything else in my opinion is just stupidity.
D-D Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I've gone to restruants so many times and had a really attractive waitress which I'd like to have asked out. I always decied not to ask thinking that she was just being nice as it was part of her job. The second problem was figuring out how to go about it. I've sometimes thought of writing a quick note on the bill with my number. Not sure if it would work though.... I like the above poster's ideas of striking up a conversation, but my only concern is you really don't know anything about her as she has only served you food while she was working (at least that is what I assume from your post). You'd be shooting in the dark as to a topic which would start a conversation or spark her interest. I might try a simpler approach. Maybe keep going to the restraunt until you get her as a server. Then when she is serving you just say something like "I usually don't do this, but I think you are amazingly beautiful" or something to that effect. I think her reaction to that will be enough to know whether it is worth asking her out or whether you should exit the restraunt like there is a bomb about to go off. If she responds well just tell her you'd like to get the opportunity to get to know her and get her numbner if she is willing. Don't take my advice seriously though, because I've never tried any of these and I usually suck at picking up women (though I'm 2 for 2 recently)!
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