Pedigree Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Something that I noticed with my girl friends in recent times is them promoting each other. I'd be talking to one and if another girl's name gets mentioned, the girl I'm talking to would be promoting her, like so: Girl A: Hey, how did the party go? Me: It was great. Girl B was there; should've seen her...*goes to talk about what Girl B did*. Girl A: Yeah, I can see her doing that. She's a very fun girl. Me: I agree. Girl A: She's also very pretty, don't you think? Then I'll be talking to Girl B and when Girl A comes up in the convo, Girl B will be pointing out her positives. Is there anything I'm missing here?
Cov Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 It must be a characteristic with Aussie women, because where I am from women tend to slate each other behind their backs. Pediagree, how are things man?
Taramere Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Not that I'm young enough to still be classed as a girl - but it's surprising how little these things change as you get older. What you describe is the kind of sounding out I might do if a female friend of mine fancies a male acquaintance of mine. Suss out whether he's interested by dropping positive comments, watching his reactions and feeding back to her. Friends have done the same for me in the past. I'll get the "I think he likes you" nod, then there will be a set up whereby we happen to be in the same bar and end up in conversation. Naturally at some point the conversation will turn to the friend who's trying to get us together as she's a point of common interest. If that particular friend is very attractive, she might be a point of extreme interest to him - notwithstanding the fact that she's trying to fix us up. So I need to check this out a little by casually dropping positive comments about her and watching his reactions (paying attention to the non verbal more than to the verbal). If the strong suggestion is that it's the friend more than me who he's got the hots for then I'll give her the word so that she can decide (if she's single) what she wants to do about it. Obviously there can be sulks and wounded pride feelings in amongst all that, depending on how much excitement and optimism there had been about the guy - but that's the general gist of it. There's one explanation. I'm sure there are many more possibilities.
Trialbyfire Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Yes, I promote my other single friends, if there's a guy who might be compatible for them. I don't see the harm in this because without the promotion, he wouldn't: a) Know she exists. b) Know they might have some interests in common.
crosswordfiend Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Yes, I promote my other single friends, if there's a guy who might be compatible for them. I don't see the harm in this because without the promotion, he wouldn't: a) Know she exists. b) Know they might have some interests in common. Yup. No harm in promoting your friends. However, over the years I've learned to take comments like "she's really cute" with a grain of salt. A male opinion is much more reliable when it comes to physical attractiveness.
Author Pedigree Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Yeah, could be true, Taramere and Trialbyfire. Another question, if the girls were acquaintances (instead of friends), would that change the motivation behind promoting each other? Because the only thing the girls in question have in common with each other is that they're my friends. I don't think they're close enough with each other to coordinate this. Or it can be a characteristic of Australian woman as Cov, said. Not doing too bad, Cov. As far as that other girl is concerned, we're just friends now. For some reason, she's not as "busy" anymore .
Trialbyfire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Yup. No harm in promoting your friends. However, over the years I've learned to take comments like "she's really cute" with a grain of salt. A male opinion is much more reliable when it comes to physical attractiveness. I'll have to disagree. If you want an unbiased opinion best to not ask a friend of either gender.
crosswordfiend Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I'll have to disagree. If you want an unbiased opinion best to not ask a friend of either gender. I'll buy that.
Author Pedigree Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Yup. No harm in promoting your friends. However, over the years I've learned to take comments like "she's really cute" with a grain of salt. A male opinion is much more reliable when it comes to physical attractiveness. Actually, since I know both the girls in question, they've been pretty accurate.
Prodigal Princess Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 My friends and I definitely promote each other in front of potential suitors. However I've never lied; everything I say I genuinly believe. Of course, these are my friends so I am terribly biased; I really do think they are the most fab bunch of girls in the world. I'm an Aussie chick so maybe it is one of our traits - but I do love a good bitching session too! (Just never in front of guys; we need to maintain our aura of unitedness...)
JerseyShortie Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I carry around a sign when I go out that says "Vote for Jessica 4 a Relationship!" I talk up my female girlfriends. Doesn't mean I don't ever say things about girls I don't like though. If a girl is nice and beautiful I will say so. But if she is beautiful and a bitch, I am not going to pretend she is a good person.
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