membama Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 my current g/f and i have been together for a year. When we first got serious, about a month into the relationship I found an email on her computer where she had emailed a guy she had dated before the two of us started seeing each other. fyi.... he lives about 10 hours from us. Anyways, the email was saying how he was the love of her life etc... well, i confronted her about it and she admitted to everything. We weren't seeing eye to eye on some things anyways, and IMO, she cheated. I broke up with her and a few weeks later she came back wanting me to give her another chance. She felt torn and wasn't over her relationship with him at the time. Well everything has been good (the last 7-8 months) until the last couple of weeks. I've gotten this feeling in my gut that something isn't right. She is saying all of the right things, but I still have trust issues with her. I do love her, but I still think she is immature and would jump at the chance of another/better opportunity. I'm not sure if its just me not getting past the issue, or if my gut is telling me something. Any ideas??
justaman99 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 How did you "find this email". Looking at your partners email is the worst thing you can do. It's a huge violation of trust even if suspicions are there. I understand if you think something isn't right but snooping and looking at someone's email, texts or whatever is wrong. It also shows a huge lack of trust meaning the relationship is already broken on some level.
Author membama Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 i was going to use her comptuer to check webmail and she had left the email up on the screen. we don't live together so I'm assuming she didn't think i'd use her computer or either she was careless and forgot about it... nonetheless, anyone want to take a shot at giving me advice on this??
justaman99 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 If you have to snoop and check messages and texts then the relationship is dead already. If the trust isn't there then break it off or at least be a man, sack up and talk to her about it face to face. Ask the tough questions and see how she responds. If she's been distant ask her about it. Tell her how you feel. And if she says some BS about nothings wrong push it and tell her why you feel this way. Ask her if she's still in this. Ask her if there's someone else. Ask her if she still loves, cares and wants to be in the relationship. If you snoop and spy you're insecure and can't deal with it like a man.
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