now what do i do?

[col]

i posted the other day about my ex sending me a message, someone replied saying it sounds like shes keeping me "on the hook" or something along those lines.. well since then weve emailed each other and spoke on the net.

one of the emails i sent her was asking what the deal was, why she is doing this etc., well her reply in a nut shell was that she got scared of how well we were doing (it was both our 1st long term relationship, both our 1st loves, she even waited to see if i was the right person to loose her V" to (and im honered that i was)) anyways she was scared that i was the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and she was scared that this had all happened and she wasnt expecting it (if its making sence) now like i said in my previus post, we were together over 2year and in those 2year the only lies she told were white lies (got nothing for your birthday etc.) so im kinda belive her about it all

 

now... during our convosation (please note i didnt mention about us getting back together or anything (that i can think of) but i do want us to give it a chance) ... she said she has alot on her mind (shes got exams to get into uni coming up this week) but she does want us to give it a shot,

take it slow, get to know each other again, go on dates like the early part of the relationship :bunny:etc. etc.

 

i love this girl to bits but i went through 3 month (during the end of our relationship) of pure unhappyness and 4 month (of us being apart and not being in contact) thinking every day about her .. i dont think i could go through it again but then again .. if all goes well, i might not have to?

 

is she basicly saying she wants a second chance.. what should i do.. i know she wont ask me to take her out shell wait for me to ask, when should i do it.... basicly all that sort of thing...

.. also am i doing everything right by not mentioning US or should i go about it a different way.. how should i ask her when she wants to go

 

ARGH IM SO NERVOUS LOL its like starting from scratch again :S

 

am i being over optomistic?

thx

[loomis]

how long have you two not been together? My ex did the same thing almost. It would be interesting to know what kind of time frame it took for your ex to even start coming around. I think it sounds like a good thing. Take it slow, be optimistic, but not too.