carrie3107 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Its been 3 months since we split, after contacting each other during them 3 months ie meeting up to talk etc. I broke contact with him last week. During these 3 months i have been going out and trying to enjoy myself but my mind was on him. So as soon as i started NC i felt much better about things, going out and started to really enjoy myself with my friends. This lad started talking to me on Saturday night offering me a one night special which i refused saying id rather have my toy (lol). (Not interested in a one night stand) So i must be getting stronger. I've started looking at the relationship and him as it was and not how i wanted it to be. The thing is why do i wake up still thinking about him, (My mate has told me it will get easier). Sometimes when im out with my friends and having a laugh, i suddenly think to myself if only we'd had a laugh and carry on, then we might have been happy. (This gets me down a bit). Sometimes i dont think of him at allday then suddenly the next day he's in my mind I hate break ups, but when looking at the relationship weve seperated for the right reasons!!!!!
borelandkaren Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Its been 3 months since we split, after contacting each other during them 3 months ie meeting up to talk etc. I broke contact with him last week. During these 3 months i have been going out and trying to enjoy myself but my mind was on him. So as soon as i started NC i felt much better about things, going out and started to really enjoy myself with my friends. This lad started talking to me on Saturday night offering me a one night special which i refused saying id rather have my toy (lol). (Not interested in a one night stand) So i must be getting stronger. I've started looking at the relationship and him as it was and not how i wanted it to be. The thing is why do i wake up still thinking about him, (My mate has told me it will get easier). Sometimes when im out with my friends and having a laugh, i suddenly think to myself if only we'd had a laugh and carry on, then we might have been happy. (This gets me down a bit). Sometimes i dont think of him at allday then suddenly the next day he's in my mind I hate break ups, but when looking at the relationship weve seperated for the right reasons!!!!! Understand exactly where you're coming from. Broke up around the same time and he fills my thoughts fairly consistently, I ended things for all the right reasons and I feel completely, bloody, obsessed! Why doesn't he ring, when will he call.....? I know he never will again because I chased him off pretty convincingly but......Oh well. I may just have to get the **** over it... as he would say! I will. It's just taking a bit.
Author carrie3107 Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 Yeah i know the feeling!! During the 3 months after the inital break he kept me hanging on (even though he said he didnt do it intially) and kept and saying we will get back together. But during the 3 months he kept on going hot and cold and suggesting things which were all to keep me hanging on! So after the last text from him saying I'll speak to you soon I texted him saying Its all or nothing. You cant keep on coming in and out of my life when it suits you. I deserve better. Wehavent contacted each other since!!!
Exl Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Sometimes when im out with my friends and having a laugh, i suddenly think to myself if only we'd had a laugh and carry on, then we might have been happy. (This gets me down a bit). Had something similar yesterday. Remembered one stupid meaningless moment that could have easily "turned" the tide. Sometimes i dont think of him at allday then suddenly the next day he's in my mind That's good. It's only been 3 weeks for me but I think of her pretty much most of the time... Doesn't help. I hate break ups, but when looking at the relationship weve seperated for the right reasons!!!!! Indeed. Wonderful (and necessary) insight. So did we.
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