D-Lish Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 To those who thought I was insulting online daters, I wasn't CALLING them weirdos - I was simply asking if people THOUGHT they were. North, you're very right. The online thing is going frustrating so far, haven't gotten any responses to my "winks." Plus, all of the sites I've checked want to charge you $20. I'm thinking I'll just say f*ck it. I'll meet someone some day, and it'll most likely happen in person. You didn't say it... "Lovestruck" did...and does often. But it's a little contradictory don't you think? That the same people seeking advice about love and relationships online would view seeking love online as "weird"....????
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 The online thing is going frustrating so far, haven't gotten any responses to my "winks." Plus, all of the sites I've checked want to charge you $20. Women don't respond to winks.. Put yourself out there and write an email... Read their profile and come up with some thing witty and include something from their profile so they know you actually read the profile and didn't send an email on the picture alone.. Will you get no response a good bit of time.. yes.. just remember to make yourself sound fun.. No girl wants to go out with a guy that isn't going to be a fun date.. also humor will pull a woman your way quickly.. Think about it.. if some girl sent you a dud email and from the sound of the email she seems ordinary or not fun then you wouldn't go out with her... You can't sit behind the computer and just hit the wink button... women get 100's of winks a day and don't give them a second look..
motive2002 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 My last ad was almost blunt to a fault, but a bit tongue in cheek, and I was surprised at the results! I think people like to see something out of the ordinary... you can only look at so much of the same thing over and over. Oh the one I posted on this thread was a joke, if you couldn't tell. I don't really have 3 hamsters
northstar1 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 To those who thought I was insulting online daters, I wasn't CALLING them weirdos - I was simply asking if people THOUGHT they were. North, you're very right. The online thing is going frustrating so far, haven't gotten any responses to my "winks." Plus, all of the sites I've checked want to charge you $20. I'm thinking I'll just say f*ck it. I'll meet someone some day, and it'll most likely happen in person. Yep, I know what you mean. But it happens to pretty much every guy, so don't take it to heart. It's all numbers man, A girl with an attractive picture up might get 20 or 30 'winks' a day. So, many I know wouldn't even have time to go through all them. Honestly, just be patient. Be selective, read the profiles and see if you have anything in common for interests. Then if your service allows it, send them a note or email or whatever you can send. Just be yourself - you seem witty and intelligent - Girls are more likely to respond to a witty, interesting note than something like "You are hot" etc (not that you would send that). Give it a shot for a month - you may just find someone interesting. At the very least, you may meet someone you can share a coffee or drink with an maybe a few good conversations. If you don't like it no big deal. I did it for a year, and met some nice girls I still can say I'm friends with. Good luck
sid3 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I don't think you should give up on it so soon. Also, I think an email is more likely to get a response than a wink. JMHO. LOVESTRUCK replies to many threads when this question is asked, it is obvious her past experience with it has formed her negative opinion. Who cares what one bitter person thinks, give it a shot, you never know. :confused:I am guessing when LOVWSTRUCK:eek: hears that commercial, she does not agree with "it's ok to look"
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 35 SWM, Loves Transformers and anything Star Trek related. I live in my Mom's basement where I play video games all day because I'm unemployed. I'm 5'6" with a "little more to love" and my mom says my thick glasses make me look like Geraldo Rivera, except without the mustache. I live here with my 3 hamsters and my wicked antique cereal box collection. (my favorite is the Wheaties box with OJ Simpson on the front) Please live within 3 miles because I can't ride my bike that far without passing out. Hope to hear from you!! LMAO - have you ever watched Brad Paisley's video of "cooler online" ???? (I think the wheeties box might be worth something, though)
Lizzie60 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I've had some success stories and other not-so-successful.. I had to meet tons before I find one fairly attractive.. I'm extremely picky so it didn't help. So if you're patient, I say go for it.. I don't have the patience anymore.. nor the time.
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I don't think you should give up on it so soon. Also, I think an email is more likely to get a response than a wink. JMHO. LOVESTRUCK replies to many threads when this question is asked, it is obvious her past experience with it has formed her negative opinion. Who cares what one bitter person thinks, give it a shot, you never know. :confused:I am guessing when LOVWSTRUCK:eek: hears that commercial, she does not agree with "it's ok to look" supposedly she has never dated online - but has "friends" who have had "bad experiences" - therefore is obviously an expert
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I've had some success stories and other not-so-successful.. I had to meet tons before I find one fairly attractive.. I'm extremely picky so it didn't help. So if you're patient, I say go for it.. I don't have the patience anymore.. nor the time. you gotta kiss a lot of toads to find a prince (they say)
LikeCharlotte Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I signed up on eharmony and they said there are no compatible matches for me in the whole world.That happened to me as well. I signed up with my ex ex to see if they would match us. Apparently I am not compatible with anyone anywhere. Ha. I'm a bit scared now.
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 That happened to me as well. Ha. I'm a bit scared now. You both have just found each other.. you both are each others match
LikeCharlotte Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 It's destiny. Well Y, everyone thinks your nuts and I attract crazy like moth to flame. So we might as well get on with it... Do you want to threaten suicide and cheat first or should I? *sigh*
motive2002 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Well Y, everyone thinks your nuts and I attract crazy like moth to flame. So we might as well get on with it... Aww, my little Arquette girl off with another man! This is coping in real time folks. Right here in the coping section! Oh well, Maybe Y will not feel so angry/bitter/angst/homocidal etc.
Nevermind Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 The drama! I always wondered wether there was a secret hook-up feature for paying users.
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 That happened to me as well. I signed up with my ex ex to see if they would match us. Apparently I am not compatible with anyone anywhere. Ha. I'm a bit scared now. I've heard some people actually get rejected by eharmony - always wondered why (seriously)
Author kizik Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Well, I've been responding to some profiles, trying to be "funny" or whatever (but not forced). Even made a couple ads of my own. I don't know, guys, the whole thing is making me feel so UNattractive, since I'm not getting any responses.
wowIlose Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 hey don't feel bad. I get better response rate in real life after a nasty hang over with drool on my t-shirt than I do on an online dating website. Its just saturated with dudes and it takes time to get responses and draw interest. By the way what service you using?
LikeCharlotte Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Aww, my little Arquette girl off with another man! This is coping in real time folks. Right here in the coping section! Oh well, Maybe Y will not feel so angry/bitter/angst/homocidal etc.Motive, I was really into you until you told us that you really didn't have the 3 hamsters. *sniff* It's just too much to bear. You lied!
LikeCharlotte Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I've heard some people actually get rejected by eharmony - always wondered why (seriously)My theory is that I am just too different on paper. In most personality for dating scenarios I'm probably grouped with the lowest percent of the population (morals, religion, children, money, hobbies, sex) I wasn't rejected but in two or three years I wasn't sent a single match, not even my own b/f at the time who I really was quite well paired with and obviously proximity wasn't an issue. I really need to feel someone out and let them see who I am in person for awhile before I can consider them romantically.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I don't know, guys, the whole thing is making me feel so UNattractive, since I'm not getting any responses.Give it time. The people I know who have had success just kept trying and started to learn how to use it effectively. Like any tool it takes a little experience. As for feeling unattractive, don't. Not every person will log on and look every single day it hasn't been that long. I don't feel unattractive and I never had a chance on dating sites. Confidence goes a long way. Now pick up your head and be proud of yourself for trying! :bunny:
Exl Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Well, I've been responding to some profiles, trying to be "funny" or whatever (but not forced). Even made a couple ads of my own. I don't know, guys, the whole thing is making me feel so UNattractive, since I'm not getting any responses. Hey Kiz, if you're really my clone you'll sonn be flooded with requests hehe
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