dharris27 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 still crying. still see him. still know of him and his new girlfriend who he started dating just one or two months after the end of our 2 years relationship in which i broke up with him over frustration and unsureness. I have felt better in general though. God i hope this is the last part. I didn't start grieving till about three months afterwards. I guess he never had to.
sedgwick Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 You broke up with him over your own uncertainty, or his? I have such a hard time believing dumpers actually feel any grief at all. I guess some of them do, but mine sure didn't seem to.
borelandkaren Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Not true. I was the dumper and I'm completely gutted.
kizik Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 8 months seems a long time to be grieving so actively. Perhaps you should see a therapist, maybe consider anti-depressants.
Exl Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I have such a hard time believing dumpers actually feel any grief at all. I guess some of them do, but mine sure didn't seem to. Although a few days later with cooler heads we set it to some "space", initially I was the dumper. And I meant it to be final. That was the last decision I ever wanted to make, sometimes you're just left with no choice by the "dumpees". I was totally heartbroken and devastated and still am (it's been little over 3 weeks). I just can't be with her the way things were. Deep down I still hope she'll come around to her senses before it's too late. Everyday I think if I shouldn't have tried one more time before doing it. But after one year of unsuccessful tries I was already broken deep down. Maybe I'm an exception, but I actually feel like the dumpee. In our case, someone had to have the guts to do it. It had to be me because she's passive aggressive and therefore would never come around to do it. Otherwise it'd drag on forever. Yet I love her madly still, although disappointed.
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