curiousnycgirl Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 A little background can be found here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=153606 I really wanted to wait until his birthday to walk away - but wow we just had a rotten weekend. I had planned a bbq at his house - just his BFF and BFF's wife and his neighbors. Not sure what exactly I did wrong, but he was really not speaking nicely to me at all. To the point that I actually thought about going home after we had cleaned up and everyone went to bed. We all (his BFF, BFF's wife, etc) got up this morning, and more of the same. Then over breakfast he said something hugely anti semitic - I mean HUGELY. I was stunned just looked at him and said I couldn't believe he had said it. He tried to explain/cover up, etc - but frankly I have suspected that one of the reasons he wouldn't marry me was because I am jewish. After his BFF and BFF's wife left he put his arm around me and told me how yet again I had planned a lovely dinner, blah, blah, blah. I told him that I was not sure what I had done to piss him off, but I didn't feel the way he had been speaking to me had been called for. He apologized and that was it. I just feel like crying. Can't tell any of my friends - because what if I actually end up with this guy? I just want to freaking ask him what the hell he wants/expects from me. Then I thinkabout everything we have coming up - like the fact that I am traveling on business next week and need him to watch my dog and cat. AAAARRRRGGGGHHH how did I lose mty independence? How did our lives get so enmeshed?! What am I going to do?! I'm just too damn old to start again - this was my last chance.
0hpenelope Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 A little background can be found here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=153606 I really wanted to wait until his birthday to walk away - but wow we just had a rotten weekend. I had planned a bbq at his house - just his BFF and BFF's wife and his neighbors. Not sure what exactly I did wrong, but he was really not speaking nicely to me at all. To the point that I actually thought about going home after we had cleaned up and everyone went to bed. We all (his BFF, BFF's wife, etc) got up this morning, and more of the same. Then over breakfast he said something hugely anti semitic - I mean HUGELY. I was stunned just looked at him and said I couldn't believe he had said it. He tried to explain/cover up, etc - but frankly I have suspected that one of the reasons he wouldn't marry me was because I am jewish. After his BFF and BFF's wife left he put his arm around me and told me how yet again I had planned a lovely dinner, blah, blah, blah. I told him that I was not sure what I had done to piss him off, but I didn't feel the way he had been speaking to me had been called for. He apologized and that was it. I just feel like crying. Can't tell any of my friends - because what if I actually end up with this guy? I just want to freaking ask him what the hell he wants/expects from me. Then I thinkabout everything we have coming up - like the fact that I am traveling on business next week and need him to watch my dog and cat. AAAARRRRGGGGHHH how did I lose mty independence? How did our lives get so enmeshed?! What am I going to do?! I'm just too damn old to start again - this was my last chance. :mad: That's terrible... I don't have anything to contribute, really, but that's just absolutely terrible. If anything were said against my race by someone who's supposed to love me, I'm gone. That's it, I'm out. There's more to this Freudian "slip" from his part sister, and I'm glad that your instincts caught on to it. Trust your gut.
tinktronik Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Have done with him. Board your animals and go on your trip. But quickly, end it he's no good.
Exl Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 You're never too old. But I know the feeling... You're just as old as you allow yourself to be. As for waiting for the birthday, I did the same with my ex, and left a few days in between before the breakup not to seem so insensitive. As you said, it was horrible. When things aren't well not even the usually good moments can make up for it... Still.. A week or so before she did try hard (for the first time in ages) for my b-day, even prepared a surprise party (making me think until the last second that she forgot about it) for ourselves... Wasn't very happy either because I wasn't in much of a mood and it had a twist because later that day she was going away for a week... And never got to spend the afternoon with her on my birthday. It probably would've gone better because I would've ditched the mood a little when I thought over it. Sucks.
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