LL23 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 My ex and I broke up in November....I broke up with him @ the time becaus eit was a LDR and we were fighting a lot. He called for months until February and was saying he wanted me back and I told him I still oved him but I wanted him to come visit me, bcuz I was always the one flying to see him. He said he would be there in March. I didnt hear from him for two months after that and i randomly flew down to see him after missing him every day. I surprised him and he was crying hysterically and shaking and said he still had feelings for me and loved me but his life is simple now and in those two months he met someone new and LOVES her. I was blown away, but all I could say was ...Im in love with you and you know where Im @. You deserve the best, and i left. As I turned to leave we both made eye contact and broke down crying. He said it wouldnt be right to his new girl to talk to me anymore. My question is how could he love me still and be in love with this girl??? Did she just come @ the right time for him? It kills me everyday to think about him with her. We had a really strong connection but when i moved the distance hurt us tremendously. Ive recently dated and unfortunately Im not emotionally ready to move on. Is it pointless to hope for anything from him??
Template Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I think in order for you to be emotionally ready to move on, you WILL have to kill any hope for anything from him. From a guys point of view, it is quite possible that he loves you both, but unfortunately, his ability to be in the physical presence of this new love almost trumps anything that you can do long distance. I look at the impact of communication in relationship to love this way: text(email, chat) < phone call < physical presence. There are only so much that a person can love from long distance as opposed to a person actually being there. What is messed up is that if this dude truly loved you, and was honest with you, he would have informed you of his new love. This should have occurred just out of respect. And no, I don't believe in the whole "I didn't want to hurt you" excuse. I mean c'mon, I didn't want to hurt you now, so I'll just hurt you even more later? Puhleeze. You should give yourself time to heal. There's nothing with going out on dates, as long as it's for the right reasons. Be honest to yourself, and your dates, and you'll get over this and be alright.
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