SarahT111 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Hey all Just have a quick NC question. I was dumped but my ex and really hurt over it. He said he really wanted to remain friends and i didn't want to be immature about it so I carried on talking to him etc. However He has continued to lead me on and has been all over me during the weekends etc. He txts alot and also contacts me otherways. I always replied to him but he only replied to me when it suited him. I always turned up when he invited me out but he would always seem to make and excuse if I ever invited him anywhere. A few nights ago I turned up to a party he invited me to, he was all over me for most of the night. He then disapperead off with some other girl. I was understandably upset so I left and went home. I couldnt even find him to say goodbye. He txtd the next day and said 'sorry bout last night, i just think we should be friends ay'. I am hurt all over again. Do i go NC? He wants to be friends and im sure will txt me or talk to me at uni at some point. So the question is what do I do? Im not going to contact him but if he contacts me do i get back to him? I want to be the bigger person and feel kind of rude if I ignore him but talking to him is sure going to hurt as I like him so much. If you have any advice on the situation please let me know! Thanks
kizik Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 he was all over me for most of the night. He then disapperead off with some other girl. Do i go NC? Uh, yeah. I am so goddamn amazed that people don't have enough self-respect to get rid of the sh*theads in their lives. Yes, Sarah, you need to not talk to this as*hole anymore. He will use you and f*ck with your heart. Why are women attracted to the sh*ttiest MFers around?
wareagle Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 YES!!! Go nc this guy is an *******! He wants his cake and eat it to! My ex did this for over a year in and out of my life and my dumbass took her back everytime! I have been nc since the last time in early march and let me tell you I have never been more confident in my life!! You don't deserve this he dumped you and you don't owe him anything!! PERIOD!!!! Pull your skirt up and don't allow him to mind **** you anymore, you deserve better than that!! I was in your shoes I know how much it hurts, so trust me when I say nc! This guy will continue to mind **** you until you don't allow it anymore! Sorry to be so blunt, but I am sick of people allowing this to happen!!!
0hpenelope Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Hey all Just have a quick NC question. I was dumped but my ex and really hurt over it. He said he really wanted to remain friends and i didn't want to be immature about it so I carried on talking to him etc. However He has continued to lead me on and has been all over me during the weekends etc. He txts alot and also contacts me otherways. I always replied to him but he only replied to me when it suited him. I always turned up when he invited me out but he would always seem to make and excuse if I ever invited him anywhere. A few nights ago I turned up to a party he invited me to, he was all over me for most of the night. He then disapperead off with some other girl. I was understandably upset so I left and went home. I couldnt even find him to say goodbye. He txtd the next day and said 'sorry bout last night, i just think we should be friends ay'. I am hurt all over again. Do i go NC? He wants to be friends and im sure will txt me or talk to me at uni at some point. So the question is what do I do? Im not going to contact him but if he contacts me do i get back to him? I want to be the bigger person and feel kind of rude if I ignore him but talking to him is sure going to hurt as I like him so much. If you have any advice on the situation please let me know! Thanks Um... Since when does not staying friends with an ex become a sign of immaturity? I'm a dissident of this personal opinion. Sometimes there are relationships where the bad starts to outweigh the good and that's when you need to leave the relationship and get the heck out. With that said... You're "being mature" by staying friends with your ex at your own expense. In break ups, the first priority should be you; you should be helping yourself to get over the loss, the heartache. When you lose sight of that priority, you're going to slow your healing for a long time. If you initially thought that staying friends with the ex would be beneficial to your personal well-being... it's not entirely right and it shows. You can't be the bigger person when you're not ready. Friendship with an ex works out when both people are entirely platonic towards each other. You're clearly not platonic. He's playing games. You've played with him in those games long enough and the time's come to say "Game over." What he's doing is confusing and he's clearly playing with you. Even if you ask him why, he's going to give you an answer that you're not going to be satisfied with - you're going to try and find every single justification, rationale, reason that will match up with what he's told you that will make it okay to stay in contact with him. My personal opinion? This guy's confused - and you cannot get a straight answer out of anyone who does not know what they want for themselves. But he knows that he can play you like a puppet... Don't let him do that anymore. What's clear, though, is he has not chosen to be with you. You can start from here. You have control over you and start using that to take care of yourself.
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