skper138 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Hey, just wanted to communicate to everyone that things are going back to the way they used to be. My ex and i are getting back together and god it feels right. We have spend many romantic nights in the past few days. I am happy and can't wait to wake up and have breakfast with him once gain. Being with him once again in everyway is amazing!!! PS. As for his ex, What goes around comes around......
justine4 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Great news for you skper, I hope everything works out for you. Do tell us a bit of the background. How long where you going out together? When did you split up? Who ended it and why? Sorry, don't mean to be too nosey (really!) just wanting to get a bit of background and see if theres light at the end of the tunnel...
sedgwick Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Sigh. I would give anything if mine would just speak to me again. You're so lucky.
Author skper138 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Hey Justine 4, My ex and I were together for about 7 years. He was unfaithful to me with a coworker and was with her on and off for a little over a year. He was the one to end our relationship back in December 2006. The ending was tough for both of us. There was a point where we couldn’t speak to each other or see each other because there was so much anger between us. Time has passed and we can now see each other with out a problem. We are now focused on all the good things and the things we’ve learned from being apart. We are taking one step at a time for now.
Author skper138 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Sedgwick, I am not familiar withy your situation but all I can tell you is that everything takes time. Everyone takes time to heal specially the person who’s at fault. My ex was angry at me because it was the only way he was able to deal with his betrayal. Now that time has passed we can actually talk about the situation without anyone getting upset or hurt. There is still love there so that makes everything easier. Whatever you do don’t pressure your love. Time heals everything ;')
sedgwick Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I don't pressure him. I don't even contact him. I know his life is better without me in it, and if all I can give him is my absence, I'll give it with all my heart. The brief version of my story is that we had a blissful year together -- or at least I was blissful. Of course I now know that all the love and caring he expressed was a lie. He's a musician and he dumped me because I'm not a musician too, I'm just a writer and dancer. He has completely destroyed my faith in myself and what I do. I've spent the last year, since he left, just kind of feeling like a loser. Which sucks, because I have a book due soon, I have to turn it in, and all it is to me at this point is just...not music. I love my dance company and perform a lot but still, it's not music so I'm questioning its worth. We were ostensibly celebrating the selling of my book one weekend. We had an amazing night. Really just beautiful. He told me he loved me. Then the next morning he dumped me for not being a musician and I never saw him again. He left me sobbing in a ball on the bed promising to love him unconditionally, forever, for exactly who he is, and then he stopped speaking to me. I still do love him with everything in me. But I just assume he's happy as a clam and probably has ten musicians waiting to tell him THEY love him unconditionally forever, too. I had never said that to anyone in my life, but it didn't mean anything to the person to whom I said it. I wasn't good enough for him, and that breaks my heart over and over every day. I would never try loving again. I wouldn't want to burden them by making them be with someone who's only a writer and dancer.
rapunzel_2000 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 sedgewick - If your boyfriend dumped you because you are not a musician he is a loser. With a capital L. A writer and a dancer, that's very cool. How many people can say they have written a book? Very few. And a dancer...you are clearly very creative and artistic. I'm a musician and would never dump someone if they were not a musician. If they hated or had NO appreciation for music it might give me pause...but if they were not a musician it would not make a difference at all. He sounds messed up if he dumped you like that. Don't let his opinion affect your opinion of yourself or question yourself. You are who you are, a unique and wonderful individual. You have to get out of the mindset that you are not good enough being who you ARE or you'll never be able to have a happy, healthy relationship.
Lookingforward Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 We were ostensibly celebrating the selling of my book one weekend. We had an amazing night. Really just beautiful. He told me he loved me. Then the next morning he dumped me for not being a musician and I never saw him again. He left me sobbing in a ball on the bed promising to love him unconditionally, forever, for exactly who he is, and then he stopped speaking to me. you know sedg... maybe he was too small to cope with YOUR success ? just a thought
frd150 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Hey, just wanted to communicate to everyone that things are going back to the way they used to be. My ex and i are getting back together and god it feels right. We have spend many romantic nights in the past few days. I am happy and can't wait to wake up and have breakfast with him once gain. Being with him once again in everyway is amazing!!! PS. As for his ex, What goes around comes around...... This is awsome,good for you. Its funny, I got dumped for working my a$$ off to build a future for us,this guy was unfaithful and you were able to see past it. That takes alot of courage. Best wishes to you both.
justine4 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Great news for you skper, I hope everything works out for you. Do tell us a bit of the background. How long where you going out together? When did you split up? Who ended it and why? Sorry, don't mean to be too nosey (really!) just wanting to get a bit of background and see if theres light at the end of the tunnel... Awhhhh, thats so lovely that you've managed to work things through...the course of true love.... It must have been extremely difficult to gain trust again, but you sound like you're on top of the world and I wish you the very best of luck in life together.
Exl Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Just makes my heart happy to hear that, even not knowing you Maybe it's my subconscious way of wanting to feel the same.
upsetnhurt Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 SKper138, Great news for you. Seems like you have been able to accept and get past the fact that he was dishonest and disrespectful to you by cheating with a co-worker. Can I ask how you have been able to get past those thoughts? Maybe you have accepted some of the blame as to why and how that occurred, did you? In the time you were apart, did you date others and simply see him as the best you can get or were you pining away for him throughout the whole time? I am real happy that you are feeling joy and do wish you both the best, yet am so curious how you have been able to counter the thoughts that he may just do this again to you in the future. I always think that if someone cheats once, they are more likely to do it in the future........
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