LL23 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 My ex and I broke up in November....I broke up with him @ the time becaus eit was a LDR and we were fighting a lot. He called for months until February and was saying he wanted me back and I told him I still oved him but I wanted him to come visit me, bcuz I was always the one flying to see him. He said he would be there in March. I didnt hear from him for two months after that and i randomly flew down to see him after missing him every day. I surprised him and he was crying hysterically and shaking and said he still had feelings for me and loved me but his life is simple now and in those two months he met someone new and LOVES her. I was blown away, but all I could say was ...Im in love with you and you know where Im @. You deserve the best, and i left. As I turned to leave we both made eye contact and broke down crying. He said it wouldnt be right to his new girl to talk to me anymore. My question is how could he love me still and be in love with this girl??? Did she just come @ the right time for him? It kills me everyday to think about him with her. We had a really strong connection but when i moved the distance hurt us tremendously. Ive recently dated and unfortunately Im not emotionally ready to move on. Is it pointless to hope for anything from him??
0hpenelope Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Yes. Yes, it's pointless. Simply put, he has chosen a new priority in his life: her. Some gfs don't mind their SOs staying in touch with their exes, but he's being respectful of her now. Your emotions complicate things, add depth to what should be practical... I'm sorry. The initial stages of a break-up is honestly the hardest. You broke up with him for a reason and while love should be enough, relationships take work - especially if distance is a key factor. Take care of yourself always, always, always. He's had to move on and he did. It's his way of taking care of himself. While he still loves you, he's made a choice and it was her. I'm sorry. Facing the reality of Lawrence being with another girl is something I'm struggling with, too. I know your pain - and many LS users know your pain, too. Do the dignified thing and ease out of this as gracefully as you can. Poise and class. He will come back if he wants to and nothing will stop him. But he has made his choice - just as you did when you decided the relationship was not working out.
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