submeow Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Ok so like, I've been dating this girl for about 2 years, she really loves me and wants to marry me. Lately I've been getting frustrated because she never wants to have sex. The past 2 weeks I have been kinda being distant, and we haven't hung out in that time. We've had fights about sex before and she says she is scared tof of pregnancy, religion, and as well as being scared about our past where I dumped her for about 3 months. She lost her virginity to me and wanted to wait till marriage however, that wasn't the case, but she tells me since she since she broke her rule, the she wants only me as the person she has had sex with and wants to get married. When I tell her I want it before marriage, she says its something special and to wait for marriage. I believe she is scared of getting hurt and me breaking up with her so I think she is hesitant on giving it up all the time. However, theres times she wants it bad when I don't even try to get it from her. Seems like she only wants it when I'm not giving her a ton of attention, or after a fight when we make up. Seems like I'm always making a huge effort and doing things for her but she never returns any sort of favor for me and I get frustrated. She sleeps alot and is a pretty lazy girl which always frustrates me. Anyhow, my thought was to distance my self from her in hopes she'd turn around. I guess I can't change anyone and I have to live with the way she is or move on right? I don't know what to do. I love her and she is the nicest girl I've ever met, and a girl that I know is trustful and honest. She would be a good wife in terms of being faithful, this I know. But her being lazy and not being sexual enough is giving me doubts, because most people say sex is like non-existent when you get married. I mean if she isn't trying now, I imagine she will be even more lazy and never have less sex when we get married.
Enema Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Sounds like you should be thinking about breaking up with her rather than scheming to get more sex.
fishtaco Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Yup. Sounds like she likes to use sex as a tool. Well, I wouldn't say marriage = less sex. But with her I don't know if it will guarantee you'll get more sex. Anyhow getting laid more often isn't a very good reason to get married.
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