jadedone Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 How long after you started NC or NFC before they noticed and tried to reach out to you?
foxh1234 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Hi, it has been 5 weeks and I have not heard from her. That is a good thing. I did not start NC to get her to contact me. I did it to forget her quicker and move on. Anyone who does it for other reasons will most likely be disappointed, IMO.
Lookingforward Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I just broke NC to say I was going NC If that sounds lame, let me explain - our last convo before he went NC on me (as a condition of his return to 'work on his M') was that I would always be there for him - but after a year I have decided no I won't be, why should he have that 'crutch' to fall back on ? So basically I broke NC to say goodbye, I'm done, and told him I would not be contacting him again.
Art_Critic Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 What's NC ?? When you break NC to start NC then you weren't really in NC were you ?
Nemo Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I doubt anybody will notice. You'll quickly be forgotten... forever more.
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 NC= No Contact. You can announce that you will be ignoring all attempts of communications, thus beginning: no contact. Looking: Good for you!
Art_Critic Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I would take it that a person probably notices that you are doing NC when enough time passes that is equal to how often you used to contact them... ie:.. if you always contacted them each day then after not contacting them for a couple of days is enough for them to notice..
Lookingforward Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 That was what I said - wasn't I clear ? NC was NC from his end and until now I honoured that- now it's from mine - period, finito. That means he can't contact ME either.
Author jadedone Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 I would take it that a person probably notices that you are doing NC when enough time passes that is equal to how often you used to contact them... ie:.. if you always contacted them each day then after not contacting them for a couple of days is enough for them to notice.. This makes sense. In my case the longest I have gone is 6 days but I was always visible online. I finally contacted her but she was pretty friendly and we talked for an hour. I'm going to go invisible now as well.
Author jadedone Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Update: 2 weeks since I've heard from her, and 10 days since I last sent a message, which she did not reply to. Although she was having another confused/lost day. I have made no attempt at contact since, and have been invisible. She hasn't been online nearly as much since then. Only twice that I have seen. I"m trying to figure out how much longer to go before I try to contact her again if I don't hear from her. Is 4 weeks a decent amount of time?
Template Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Update: 2 weeks since I've heard from her, and 10 days since I last sent a message, which she did not reply to. Although she was having another confused/lost day. I have made no attempt at contact since, and have been invisible. She hasn't been online nearly as much since then. Only twice that I have seen. I"m trying to figure out how much longer to go before I try to contact her again if I don't hear from her. Is 4 weeks a decent amount of time? Well what exactly are you trying to accomplish really? Most times for a lot of us to NC, it's for our own ability to heal from the relationship, and to transition to going forward with our lives. Maybe she's moving on with hers. You made the last attempt of communication, and if she wants to get in touch with you, she knows where to find you. In the meantime, stop counting the weeks since your last contact, and start counting the week to you next vacation, or days til your next party, months til an anticipated movie. Notice the theme? Concentrate on you and your needs.
Faded Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 2months. for the most part of NC. Ended on my Birthday when she called and I decided to answer. 2 days later I recieved news that she was wrong. she regretted everything. since then, we're happily back together. she's moving in with me soon. =)
kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 argh. just what i needed: stories of reconciliation. take your joy elsewhere.
justaman99 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 You suck.. You suck. Be happy for people man. No ones gonna want to be around such a negative dude or support you bro. 2months. for the most part of NC. Ended on my Birthday when she called and I decided to answer. 2 days later I recieved news that she was wrong. she regretted everything. since then, we're happily back together. she's moving in with me soon. =) Best of luck Faded. I hope it works out well for you. -Just
claycald Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 i went 8 months with NC. only because her friends were telling me she didnt want anything to do with me and i started hurting myself. but her friends were lying and now we have been talking for over two months as friends but things are goin good... except she got a new boyfriend and been with him for 7 months.
kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 2months. for the most part of NC. Ended on my Birthday when she called and I decided to answer. 2 days later I recieved news that she was wrong. she regretted everything. since then, we're happily back together. she's moving in with me soon. =) I'm kinda with Y on this one, Just. I try very hard to be happy for people, but I'm f*cking miserable. And the one thing I want in the world is a good relationship with my ex. I can guarantee you that if by some freak chance I end up with her again, or get involved happily with a great chick, I won't be posting here about it. It just makes people feel sh*tty who are suffering.
Sc430L Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Its been 3 months so far with NC. Im hoping she will text or call soon. Im looking on the bright side.
justaman99 Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Sorry, but saying to others here "You Suck" because they get an opportunity to rebuild their relationship isn't cool. Sure it's what a lot of us may hope for and there are times where some of us get it so be happy for em. Don't direct your anger or your own position on someone else's good fortune. That attitude will keep you further down than you should be. You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. On a side note I used to be a very negative guy, years ago. I even have an old friend of mine that's a girl that broke up with her guy of 10 years. People didn't want to hang around with me then. I never got invited to parties, I didn't attract people or even women and I was isolated at work. No after parties, no lunches, no visits, smiles or people saying hi when they walk by. I changed this outlook years ago and even more so recently and it has changed my life completely so I am an advocate for treating people well even if things aren't going my way for me. The girl today still has a very negative attitude. Always envious of other's successes in relationships and brings everyone else down. We avoid her. -Just
kizik Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Just, I understand what you are saying. Negativity repels. I respect your opinions, and have ever since I joined the board. I am at a point, though, when hearing others' success stories of reconciliation really hurts. So, in the future I'll try to just ignore them, I guess. I'm not a negative person (and I know your post wasn't directed just at me). My ex is, however. And negativity is sooo unattractive, as you say.
dead-dyke Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 kizik, I tend to not say much, if anything at all, but I come on here often, and read. read. read. I'm here like everyone else, because of a s**t deal. The only reason I just read, is finding linear stories and relating to them, and when someone realizes what they threw away, and comes back, I guess I live vicariously through them. Over a year for me. But who cares? Lots of good advice, even read some from you. Thats all I will bore you with, but, on a side note: your comment made me snicker out loud, so I can appreciate the position. My name is dumb, I know. All the good ones were taken.
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