arielbellecinderella Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Recently, my friend & I got to know a few guys who came to our country to work. We met them in a club & danced together for a while before going somewhere to sit down & talk. One of them came over to speak to me & asked for my number. He happened to be the one that I was more interested in. He will be here for the next few weeks & will probably return again soon. The guys invited us for dinner the following day & we agreed. During our second meeting, his friends tried to create opportunities for us to sit together in the taxi & also at the restaurant. Hence we had many opportunities to talk. Apparently, he asked his friends for their help. My friends did ask him if he likes me & he admitted. Later on, he told me he likes me & asked if I like him too. I was very shy, smiled & did not give him a reply. Anyway, he asked me out for dinner on the following day & I agreed. We met up for dinner & spent the whole time talking. Later on, one of his friend came to join us too. This friend mentioned that he was glad that the both of us are progressing well. Then the 3 of us went dancing together. We did not stay for long because the music did not appeal to us. We went back to his hotel room & spent the next couple of hours talking. We just sat on the sofa, watched the TV & talked. He mentioned that he has adapted well to our country & would love to come back here again. He also suggested some places that I can bring him to visit & offered to show me around his country if I am to visit. Then I thought it was late & I ought to leave. He asked if I really must go, of which I said yes. Then he sent me to take a taxi & said he would call me. That was a Friday night & it is now Sunday night. I have to admit that I do feel quite upset & am of course wondering why he did not call & what I should do. He seemed pretty decent & sincere. At the same time, I can't help wondering what he could be doing over the weekend since he probably did not have to work. I know that these feelings are perfectly normal, but at the same time they do not make a girl feel good, although she may know that she is a very nice & pretty girl. So, what do you guys think? Should I wait any longer? What should I do if he does not call or text me? What should I do if he calls or text me? Also, how does one get over such disappointments when things like these happen?
Author arielbellecinderella Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 Hey guys, It's Monday today. I would really appreciate it if you can help to give me some advice on this matter. Thank you! Have a great day at work!
hip chick Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 It's only been two days. I would expect a call this week sometime. If he doesn't call this week, I would just forget about it and move on.
Catherina Posted June 5, 2008 Posted June 5, 2008 Ugh I always HATED waiting for guys to call! Even though we should be doing something productive, as women, we can't help but sit around and wait for the phone to ring and hope it's HIM! Anyways, guys are just wired differently than us ladies. While a girl can easily take five minutes out of her day to call and say 'hello', a man (I have found) typically won't call unless he has a reason. A specific purpose for calling you. If he is going to call you, he will probably call when he decides he wants to see you again and has a plan in mind. Trust me - it is SO frustrating to wait for it! And it just sucks b/c we simply have no control over whether or not a man is going to call. Ugh. I have met guys who have called me the same night...guys who called three days later...one guy didn't call me for two weeks! It is unfortunately a waiting game, but all you can do is wait. I agree with hip chick - if he doesn't call this week, forget about him. Then if he does call later, it will be a pleasant surprise. It's difficult to move on, but remember that there are billions of men in the world, and you never know who you'll meet next!
OpenBook Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 Regardless of how you feel, I wouldn't put him high on my priority list. If he finally ends up calling you, I would be nice but a little cool... definitely nonchalant... and busy. Only give him a couple of minutes of polite conversation before you tell him you have to go. He probably didn't call you because he was busy playing the same game ("I'm shy":rolleyes:) with another girl he met in a bar... and she was more willing to go further with him. I'm not getting the impression at all that he's looking for something long-term. If he was really into you, he would've called and called and CALLED you. You wouldn't have been able to get rid of him!! I think something else is on his agenda. Something like "faster love"... his heart is unavailable to anyone right now. But whatever the reason, it's no skin off your nose, so don't start thinking you did something wrong, or there's something wrong with you. There's not. It just wasn't the right time, the right place, or the right guy. Period. Next!!
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