serial muse Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 The Canadian statistics are as follows: Ages 15 - 64 years: Males 11,547,354 to females 11,300,639 Note to self: investigate Canada.
Trialbyfire Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Note to self: investigate Canada. Have we got men. Come on up and I'll intro you around.
Pyro Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Around here there are by far more single males than females. At least that is how it looks to me.
Cov Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 There's a lot of single men where I am, but judging by the appearance of many it's no wonder they're single. It's one thing to be born in bred in Alabama, it's quite another to subscribe and conform to the stereotypes regarding my state.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 DC: Washington Post ahd an article about the ration not long ago. 110 single women for 100 single men. What this does not include is the population of gay men. There are TONS here. You could meet lots of women here....smart women at that.... So you don't want to move? Understandable. Open your circle of friends. Meet friends of friends. Go out more. Talk to a pretty girl in the grocery store. Online date. Get a dog and walk it. Everyone likes to pet cute puppies!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Hmmm...didn't edit that last post. The Washington Post HAD an article(not ahd!) ..about the RATIO (Not ration!)
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 TheCollector, Umm, no. I've never in my life asked a woman if she has a boyfriend like that! No, I just be myself. And no, I dont believe I ever come across as 'needy', in fact quite the contrary perhaps. But no, I would never try and convince a woman to leave their current partner for me - I mean, what kind of person would do that?!? Sure, there are lots of 'players' out there that just would do that for laughs, just because they like screwing around, but whats the point and if thats not in one's character to do, why start now. No, my point was that there seem to be far more single guys just in every situation in life than there are single women. I find this odd as I believe the populations are about equal, so where the extra single women 'go' in this world beats me! Maybe they all stay at home when they're not at work, I dont know. Let me guess, the first thing you ask a woman you like is 'So, do you have a boyfriend?' Because it cuts out the crap and saves time, right? Wrong. Most women have some guy they are dating, seeing, screwing or just keeping around to put up shelves and wrangle spiders. Many are eager to swing to a better branch, and that could be you if you present yourself properly. But if (and I admit I'm assuming) you come on in any way desperate or needy, which includes asking if she has a boyfriend especially if you're like 'I guess a great girl like you has a boyfriend and wouldn't be free for silly old me for even daring to ask, I'll get my coat' (I'm paraphrasing) - she will probably say she's taken - even if she's not. If you've been hearing that line non-stop for 20 years it's not because there are no available women, it's because you're not making them want to be available to you. So forget the presumption of this thread and try and figure out what you are doing wrong. How do you approach, talk to and build attraction with women? What do you think women want? What kind of men do women find attractive? Over to you.
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Lizzie, respectfully, where do you get that notion from?? Which women do you know that stay single for long? Most I know have been in almost constant relationships since they were teenagers. Its a case of if you miss that 'week' that they were single, then its tough luck! Contrast that with many guys I know who have been single for 5 or 10 years or more and its a huge disparity. I would think that there are wwwwayyy more single women than single men.. just a guess... men usually don't stay single very lone.. women do...
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Hi Serial Muse, yes, i regularly try all sorts of activities, sports, hobbies, a number of which are team oriented. I agree that tennis isnt the best option as often you just play with the people you go there with. I've met a few nice people in general at these activities but it tends to be full of people who are already in long term relationships and just looking to get some exercise, which is fine of course. Badminton, for example, is about 75% guys who go, which I think is strange as its one of the few sports women list on their interests usually on the Dating websites. I live in Vancouver, Canada by the way. I've heard that the East Coast of North America is a better ratio of women to guys, so maybe I should look at moving one day but then theres the problem of finding a job etc which isnt easy in my field. Wow, I wonder what city you live in, because single women actually outnumber single men in many major cities (e.g. NYC, DC). Perhaps it's the type of activities you participate in? For example - tennis isn't so much a team sport. Have you considered joining a sports club and participating in co-ed team sports where you'll meet a wider range of people?
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 ok, not sure thats all that helpful but thanks for reading the thread! Good luck to you. Really? There are more single men than there are women? Here's how you solve that ... Go out, meet a wonderful, smart, witty, sexy, beautiful, one in a billion woman. Then, be with her for two years; and, turn into a self centered, obnoxious pig of a man, tell her she's s---, tell her you hate all her friends and everything she's about. Tell her this because it makes you feel like a big man and chipping away at her self esteem is the only way you feel good about yourself. Then, rebound and meet some halfwitted cow of a woman who doesn't have half of what she has in the looks or brians department. Take it out all the unresolved things on her, and you'll end up in divorce court in a year or two. Then you'll REALLY be alone.
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 xpaperxcutx, thanks for responding. Actually you're not quite right in your reply. Most of the activities I do ARE for my own interest. I was just giving examples of the range of interests I have and that one might imagine doing one of these things might open some doors at some point, just haven't had that happen as yet. Yes, when I tried online dating it did become a burden and I wouldnt recommend that to anyone, so you're right on that one. Ok, so we're left with beaches and late night parties?? Hmmm, I always thought people just wanted to relax on the beach and not be pestered by guys trying to chat them up! As for parties, dont think thats the best place to meet someone in general unless you're the player type of guy just looking to get laid, which isnt me. But I get your point that at most activities the people are there for the activity first and foremost, which is true for me as well in most cases. I think I see where your problem is. Most of your activities involve either work, or your extracurriculars tend to focus on meeting up with single women rather than for your own interests. Eventually all of these things that you're participating in becomes more a burden than an opportunity to meet women. It's not that single men outnumber women, but the statistics show that women outnumber men in general. So your accusations are unwarranted. As for meeting single women, you can't expect to obtain a date at the places you mention. Tennis clubs and japanese classes are places where people take time to learn and enjoy their time. Women especially join those places not to be asked out, but to actually relax and enjoy themselves. So I suggest you turn your attention somewhere else. Think exotic places. I recommend a vacation. Think Cabo? Okay that's a bit extreme, but if you really want to meet singles, think beaches, think late night parties, especially since it's summer, think of places where crowds flock to. Hope that helps.
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 I haven't heard this one before. But its interesting. Doesnt apply to me unfortunately as I live Downtown in a City of 2 million people, so its about as urban as you can get. Unless you're talking Farmers what would single men be doing out in rural areas?? Just seems a bit odd that notion. The simple answer is women go to urban and men stay in rural areas. It happens all the time.
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 250,000 more men than women here then! Thanks for clearing that one up - see, I'm not crazy The Canadian statistics are as follows: Ages 15 - 64 years: Males 11,547,354 to females 11,300,639
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Lizzie, respectfully, where do you get that notion from?? Which women do you know that stay single for long? Most I know have been in almost constant relationships since they were teenagers. Its a case of if you miss that 'week' that they were single, then its tough luck! Contrast that with many guys I know who have been single for 5 or 10 years or more and its a huge disparity. Quite the opposite here. Men stay single until they want a gf, then like a month later, boom, there she is. Women...single for LONG periods of time. I'm talking about bright, classy, fun women.
Author bernie888 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 Cheery Blossom, there's lots of gay men here too! That doesnt seem to make more available women somehow. Maybe there are as many lesbian women to make up for it I do try and broaden my circle of friends but thats not always easy. I'm out 4 or 5 nights each week usually so getting out more isn't really do-able. However the one thing I haven't done is buy a puppy!! Maybe you're onto something there! Not sure it would like my small apartment though! cheers DC: Washington Post ahd an article about the ration not long ago. 110 single women for 100 single men. What this does not include is the population of gay men. There are TONS here. You could meet lots of women here....smart women at that.... So you don't want to move? Understandable. Open your circle of friends. Meet friends of friends. Go out more. Talk to a pretty girl in the grocery store. Online date. Get a dog and walk it. Everyone likes to pet cute puppies!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Yeah, the puppy thing really works! If you want a dog, that is. There are dog parks around here that are social arenas just as much as they are for puppy playtime. BTW, love the gays, they just don't help me for dating purposes!
Trialbyfire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 250,000 more men than women here then! Thanks for clearing that one up - see, I'm not crazy Haha...no, you're not crazy. As for your comment on quite a number of gay men in Vancouver, yes there are. It, like San Francisco, are two westcoast hubs for the gay culture. Now that I know the area that you're from, I can say that it can be quite cliquey here. The best places to meet good people are through people you know. If at all possible, get invited to house parties and socials. You mention that there are only guys at work. Are they social guys? If so, they might have a social network where you might meet someone like a friend or a sister.
crosswordfiend Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 DC: Washington Post ahd an article about the ration not long ago. 110 single women for 100 single men. What this does not include is the population of gay men. There are TONS here. You could meet lots of women here....smart women at that.... So you don't want to move? Understandable. Open your circle of friends. Meet friends of friends. Go out more. Talk to a pretty girl in the grocery store. Online date. Get a dog and walk it. Everyone likes to pet cute puppies! The best is when you realize a number of these people are dating each other. Then the gender ratio becomes even more unbalanced.
crosswordfiend Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 This one always puzzles me. Everywhere one goes in life, its always the same, single guys outnumber single females by 2 or 3 to 1. It makes it nearly impossible to ever meet a woman who is single and then you have to hope to have something in common, attraction etc etc. I honestly think it's your social circle more than a gross gender imbalance; the only place in canada where i would see this as being a problem is in alberta with all the guys moving out to work the oil sands. I've known guys who work as software engineers who complain that everywhere they go they only meet guys. Conversely, I've known school teachers who complain that everywhere they go they only meet other women. This is in the same town... You say you live in downtown Vancouver. Surely you can find yourself a nice coffee house scene in Kitsilano. Last time I was there, I met a few cute hipsters.
AriaIncognito Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I think the OP should go find D-Lish and date her :-) She's cute and smart and all that good stuff :-) :bunny: Where I am, seemingly no single men and a bunch of single women. I dont get it. I need to move somewhere else. If I went down south i'd be married within a year, they appreciate women differently down there (and dont start talking about the white trash thing, i mean good men lol) Up north here they mostly are looking to get with the hottest/thinnest/trophiest ones and pass up on the quality goods such as myself.
MaxManwell Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Because feminism has taught women to be selfish. They don't want to date, so they don't leaving less actively looking single women. They just think that a man will appear at their convenience they don't care if you are lonely.
D-Lish Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Because feminism has taught women to be selfish. They don't want to date, so they don't leaving less actively looking single women. They just think that a man will appear at their convenience they don't care if you are lonely. Doesn't matter to me whether or not they are lonley... just matters if they measure up! So measure up!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Doesn't matter to me whether or not they are lonley... just matters if they measure up! So measure up! Hahaha! Well said.
MaxManwell Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Doesn't matter to me whether or not they are lonley... just matters if they measure up! So measure up! When you cook my dinner.
serial muse Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 DC: Washington Post ahd an article about the ration not long ago. Hee! So in DC, we're on rations? They don't want to date, so they don't leaving less actively looking single women. :lmao: Oh Max, you slay me.
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