bernie888 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 This one always puzzles me. Everywhere one goes in life, its always the same, single guys outnumber single females by 2 or 3 to 1. It makes it nearly impossible to ever meet a woman who is single and then you have to hope to have something in common, attraction etc etc. I'm 38 and been single for pretty much my whole life. Not for lack of trying I might add. I'd love to meet someone nice and go on a few dates but haven't the slightest idea where single women disappear to, if they even do exist out there! I've tried participating in a whole range of activities and clubs, partly just for my own enjoyment but also in the hope of meeting someone at least through a thrid party perhaps, but nope, never have done so far. In the last couple of years for example I took a kayaking class, japanese language class, joined a badminton club and this year I'm taking a tennis class and also going to various business seminars and jazz music events. So far I'm no nearer bumping into any single females in any of these activities. None of my friends seem to know any single women and my work has about 25 guys and 3 women so its unlikely ever meeting someone there. I've read the articles online where some 'guru' suggests trying to meet women in a book store or supermarket, but realistically that is more than a long shot. I can't see a conversation springing up over the cucumbers, lol! I tried several online dating websites but found them all to be a waste of money. They just exist to extort money from men mostly (often women are allowed on there for free because there are so few of them) and 99% of the women on there either dont reply or appear to be paid Escorts or live in Russia and just want a visa! So, anyone any other suggestions? I have everything else going for me in life, career wise, financially and good friends, just have never met any nice women (dated briefly twice many years ago but didnt lead to anything) and I feel something is missing. One day, experiencing love would be nice too but I'm realistic that that may never happen.
The Collector Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Let me guess, the first thing you ask a woman you like is 'So, do you have a boyfriend?' Because it cuts out the crap and saves time, right? Wrong. Most women have some guy they are dating, seeing, screwing or just keeping around to put up shelves and wrangle spiders. Many are eager to swing to a better branch, and that could be you if you present yourself properly. But if (and I admit I'm assuming) you come on in any way desperate or needy, which includes asking if she has a boyfriend especially if you're like 'I guess a great girl like you has a boyfriend and wouldn't be free for silly old me for even daring to ask, I'll get my coat' (I'm paraphrasing) - she will probably say she's taken - even if she's not. If you've been hearing that line non-stop for 20 years it's not because there are no available women, it's because you're not making them want to be available to you. So forget the presumption of this thread and try and figure out what you are doing wrong. How do you approach, talk to and build attraction with women? What do you think women want? What kind of men do women find attractive? Over to you.
Lizzie60 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I would think that there are wwwwayyy more single women than single men.. just a guess... men usually don't stay single very lone.. women do...
johan Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 In our parents' day, doggie-style sex was sort of the "in" thing. That increases the chance of having boy babies. Now oral sex has become fashionable, so the next generation will be complaining more about loneliness.
Art_Critic Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 In Atlanta the ratio is almost 2:1... 2 single females for every single male... There are single women everywhere here... The key to dating in Atlanta if you are a woman is to go to places that make the ratio swing into your favor... Don't go to a dance club becuase that is where the ratio goes even higher of women to men..
serial muse Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 This one always puzzles me. Everywhere one goes in life, its always the same, single guys outnumber single females by 2 or 3 to 1. It makes it nearly impossible to ever meet a woman who is single and then you have to hope to have something in common, attraction etc etc. I'm 38 and been single for pretty much my whole life. Not for lack of trying I might add. I'd love to meet someone nice and go on a few dates but haven't the slightest idea where single women disappear to, if they even do exist out there! I've tried participating in a whole range of activities and clubs, partly just for my own enjoyment but also in the hope of meeting someone at least through a thrid party perhaps, but nope, never have done so far. In the last couple of years for example I took a kayaking class, japanese language class, joined a badminton club and this year I'm taking a tennis class and also going to various business seminars and jazz music events. So far I'm no nearer bumping into any single females in any of these activities. None of my friends seem to know any single women and my work has about 25 guys and 3 women so its unlikely ever meeting someone there. I've read the articles online where some 'guru' suggests trying to meet women in a book store or supermarket, but realistically that is more than a long shot. I can't see a conversation springing up over the cucumbers, lol! I tried several online dating websites but found them all to be a waste of money. They just exist to extort money from men mostly (often women are allowed on there for free because there are so few of them) and 99% of the women on there either dont reply or appear to be paid Escorts or live in Russia and just want a visa! So, anyone any other suggestions? I have everything else going for me in life, career wise, financially and good friends, just have never met any nice women (dated briefly twice many years ago but didnt lead to anything) and I feel something is missing. One day, experiencing love would be nice too but I'm realistic that that may never happen. Wow, I wonder what city you live in, because single women actually outnumber single men in many major cities (e.g. NYC, DC). Perhaps it's the type of activities you participate in? For example - tennis isn't so much a team sport. Have you considered joining a sports club and participating in co-ed team sports where you'll meet a wider range of people?
Lights Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Wow, I wonder what city you live in, because single women actually outnumber single men in many major cities (e.g. NYC, DC). I've read that there's an east-west divide with regards to that stuff. Incidentally, San Jose is the most extremely man-heavy, if I remember correctly.
Parker43 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 one o ma frnds just told me aftr reading this threads tht itz better tht v shuld sumtmz bcum a littlew selfish n think abt ourslf not abt out numbering of men n women.... but i wuld lik to thnk u for sharing ur view seriously man !!! Regards Richard Parker
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 In DC there are way more many single women than men.
johan Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 one o ma frnds just told me aftr reading this threads tht itz better tht v shuld sumtmz bcum a littlew selfish n think abt ourslf not abt out numbering of men n women.... but i wuld lik to thnk u for sharing ur view seriously man !!! Regards Richard Parker Yuck!! Can someone delete this?? Please?? Delete Richard while you're at it!!
Pedigree Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 This one always puzzles me. Everywhere one goes in life, its always the same, single guys outnumber single females by 2 or 3 to 1. It makes it nearly impossible to ever meet a woman who is single Too true. From my experience (take it with a grain of salt): If you choose to take a shot, you'll eventually find out she's taken. If you don't take a shot but is considering taking one, they'll casually reveal that they're taken (ie. mentions bf when talking to you). Should you bump into a single girl, they're not to your liking.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I think I see where your problem is. Most of your activities involve either work, or your extracurriculars tend to focus on meeting up with single women rather than for your own interests. Eventually all of these things that you're participating in becomes more a burden than an opportunity to meet women. It's not that single men outnumber women, but the statistics show that women outnumber men in general. So your accusations are unwarranted. As for meeting single women, you can't expect to obtain a date at the places you mention. Tennis clubs and japanese classes are places where people take time to learn and enjoy their time. Women especially join those places not to be asked out, but to actually relax and enjoy themselves. So I suggest you turn your attention somewhere else. Think exotic places. I recommend a vacation. Think Cabo? Okay that's a bit extreme, but if you really want to meet singles, think beaches, think late night parties, especially since it's summer, think of places where crowds flock to. Hope that helps.
mortensorchid Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Really? There are more single men than there are women? Here's how you solve that ... Go out, meet a wonderful, smart, witty, sexy, beautiful, one in a billion woman. Then, be with her for two years; and, turn into a self centered, obnoxious pig of a man, tell her she's s---, tell her you hate all her friends and everything she's about. Tell her this because it makes you feel like a big man and chipping away at her self esteem is the only way you feel good about yourself. Then, rebound and meet some halfwitted cow of a woman who doesn't have half of what she has in the looks or brians department. Take it out all the unresolved things on her, and you'll end up in divorce court in a year or two. Then you'll REALLY be alone.
Lights Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Really? There are more single men than there are women? Here's how you solve that ... Go out, meet a wonderful, smart, witty, sexy, beautiful, one in a billion woman. I think the original poster's local demographic situation is causing him to have plenty enough trouble trying to meet sufficient numbers of women who fall far short of this degree of rarity.
Cov Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I think the original poster's local demographic situation is causing him to have plenty enough trouble trying to meet sufficient numbers of women who fall far short of this degree of rarity. I don't think the women described by the poster you quoted exists.
zicke Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Where I live there way more single men than women. In fact, I believe that there are actually more single men than women in the US as a whole. I will have to do a search to find that exact statistic, but I have seen it. Something like between 1965-1980something there were 102 boys born for every 100 girls. I'll look it up and get back to you. And Mortenschild has a point---guys are great until they have you, then all of the sudden the grass is greener syndrome hits. Not all guys are like this, but there are quite a few out there. Women need to be more selective.
DunnoWhat Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 The simple answer is women go to urban and men stay in rural areas. It happens all the time.
carhill Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Never met a woman without a SO, real or imagined, in 49 years on this earth. Well, except for my wife, and she doesn't like me much these days For the OP, I do know our NYC (New York) female LS'ers complain about a dearth of available males in their locale. One recent male poster from there has complained about women throwing themselves at his feet before he can engage his love juices..... Nice city, lots of jobs and something to do 24 hours a day. Maybe a move in your future?
peace_pipe Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I used to feel the same way when I lived in small town Pennsylvania. Then I moved to the beach and I don't feel this way anymore, but there's a lot of trash to weed out.
lovestruck818 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080602/lf_nm_life/books_bachelors_dc
stillafool Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 No there are definitely more females than males. At least in L.A. anyway. Maybe you should move out of Canada.
serial muse Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 The simple answer is women go to urban and men stay in rural areas. It happens all the time. This is interesting and I wouldn't be surprised it if were true. I think I shall do some Googling.
serial muse Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Where I live there way more single men than women. In fact, I believe that there are actually more single men than women in the US as a whole. I will have to do a search to find that exact statistic, but I have seen it. Something like between 1965-1980something there were 102 boys born for every 100 girls. So I was curious and looked this up...according to the U.S. Census, in the year 2000, the number of men relative to women (across the entire U.S.) was: age 45 to 54: 95 men for every 100 women (more women than men) age 20 to 44: 98 men for every 100 women (more women than men) under 20: 105 men for every 100 women (more men than women) Hmmm... I don't know the stats for Canada though. But those are just national numbers; it does seem to depend on where you are.
Trialbyfire Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 The Canadian statistics are as follows: Ages 15 - 64 years: Males 11,547,354 to females 11,300,639
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