LikeCharlotte Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 There are more people who over-eat for emotional reasons, than don't. Also, breakup isn't a crisis situation. I do recall losing 10 lbs over the cessation of my marriage, but that was because I fell into a mild state of depression for a short time. Once I realized what an idiot I was being, I increased my exercise program, stimulating my appetite, therefore increasing food intake. I gained back 5 lbs and have remained the same since. I meant that rejection for a social animal is a crisis situation and that maybe rejection, separation or grief somehow stimulates a response chemically for people as well. I know that there have been studies that say that babies that aren't held will not eat as well. Again I'd have to look that up and cite my source here. I know people react to break ups differently but in some cases there has been abuse or just awful circumstances (as with my friend who lost 30lbs) I honestly think that is a crisis situation. I very much agree that there are more people who over eat for emotional reasons. I really should do my research here. For some reason I always thought of overeating as emotional issues over time similar to how anorexia/ bulimia occur. I thought of mild depression or stress weight loss more as some kind of natural coping thing that was temporary but probably good to some extent. I've got nothing to base that on and admittedly I need to do some reading. Its all speculation based on what I think I've read. Depression is characterized partially by a lack of certain chemicals or receptors in the brain right? What is most amazing about those sorts of things is that you can turn them around as you did with some recognition and a healthy attitude. Exercise is proven to increase certain chemicals and your mood. It's a bit of a catch 22 because it can be very difficult to be motivated while depressed but it works. That is how I eventually got my appetite back(post trauma not break up). I am really grateful that I learned about exercise because it helped me escape from potentially unhealthy and destructive ways of coping.
borelandkaren Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Be careful people. Breakups are bad for the heart in lots of ways but not eating is BAD FOR THE HEART. Even if you can only manage a little, manage a little. Don't get sick. You need strength for everything in life and healing is no different. As my ex used to say, "Ya gotta eat!"
surgngnl Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 are you kidding? i lost a good 25 pounds after my nutty nutty nutjob left me. i couldn't bear the thought of food, so i only drank superfood to keep me nourished. within a month, i was down from a size 8 to a size (tight) 4. it was kind of nice for a bit when i ran into him here and there, knowing that i looked like i was 20 again, but eventually, i came back to normal (well, a 6 normal since i had gained weight being with him). enjoy it now but promise to keep yourself filled with nature's goodness even if it is just from blended shakes.
justaman99 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 I lost about 20lbs. It's more because I let myself go while in the relationship. I didn't focus on myself, ate out a lot, eating quick. Now I'm at a good weight not to mention the gym has helped.
LikeCharlotte Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 broke up a month ago, lost 30 pounds.that is really unhealthy. Are you eating?
justaman99 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 broke up a month ago, lost 30 pounds. That is way too much weight to have lost in a month. You have to take better care of yourself.
Loukos_od Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 Increased heart rate 24/7 i had my heart beating like crazy.2 months it lasted.Notice that my apettite was ok .I was eating quite normally.I am 33 and i wasnt doin any physical acrivity at that time..
D-Lish Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 hmmm, that's quite a bit of weight to lose in a month. I lost 50lbs on the "divorce diet" 5 years ago... but it took about 3 months. And it was totally unhealthy- I was so sick and angst ridden that I literally didn't eat anything.
flosslight Posted June 6, 2008 Posted June 6, 2008 I ended up moving back home for a bit since I needed to move out of the apartment we shared. I did not stop eating because my mom makes great food and I did not lose my appetite. I did end up hiking a lot because it made it better for a bit. I also started to do water aerobics and other exercises with my family. I have ended up losing 15 pounds in 7 months. I'll admit that I did not think I had that much to lose. The only time I was lighter was when I was running cross country like 10 years ago. Whenever people ask how I did it, I always mention the having your heart broken diet. I say they should try it sometime. No seems excited to go for it.
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