col Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 1st off, hi, ive read some posts on here and cant find anything that answers my question so i had to register to ask.. here it is.. detail: about 3~4 month ago my relationship ended after just over 2years. i thought everything was going spot on. everyone has problems but i honestly belived we could work it out, obviusly she didnt... anyway after 2month of not knowing were i was, she told me she got talking to this guy and not sure what to make of it but wants to see what happens .. after this i just stopped all contact with her, it was just easier.. this is 4month ago.. now.. the other night i got a phonecall.. withheld i answerd but no answer.. so i hung up 10 mins later i get a txt asking how i was and can we be mates.. i tell her she knows why we cant be mates.. i loved this woman and couldnt bare to stand there while she is with other people, i know it will happen but its just easier if i dont think about it.... she then goes to txt saying she only rang cos she wanted to hear my voice, she misses me, she is hurting and she relises she lost the most important thing in her life.... so after a sleepless night of thinking about all this i send her an email,, now she hasnt txt, replied to the email or got in touch in any kind of way. i do love her, i belive she loved me and i also belive you cant just fall out of love just like that (or is that me being young (20) and naive?) so my question is this.. why would she tell me she lost the most important thing in her life, she misses me and shes hurting alot without me,, then not do anything afterwards? the email was only asking what the deal was, was she drunk? was she being mean and having a laugh at how pathetic i was? was she feeling lonely? but no reply.. so why would she do this? does she mean it? sorry for the legnthy post, this has really gotten to me thanks in advance
ElvenPriestess Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Ok this is what I see. Basically she let you know she's interested in pursuing some one else, and wanted you to stick around in case it didn't work out. You didn't bite. So it was just her and this new person. IMO she called and then texted and what not ONLY because something has gone astray with this new guy. She was scared she might end up alone and wanted to verify that she could come back to you no matter what happened. Once you replied and emailed she realized she still had you strung along. She didn't reply because she had all she needed to know. Basically this new deal isn't working out too good and she needs a fall back plan. That would be you. She's playing you and has a bad dependency problem. Sounds to me like she HAS to have a man in her life and so she wants to be assured you still care. It's like a job. "I'm quitting here for this new position but should I quit or be fired can I have this old position back?" I may be assuming too much as I don't know much about the situation but as a woman this is just what I think.
Author col Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 Ok this is what I see. Basically she let you know she's interested in pursuing some one else, and wanted you to stick around in case it didn't work out. You didn't bite. So it was just her and this new person. IMO she called and then texted and what not ONLY because something has gone astray with this new guy. She was scared she might end up alone and wanted to verify that she could come back to you no matter what happened. Once you replied and emailed she realized she still had you strung along. She didn't reply because she had all she needed to know. Basically this new deal isn't working out too good and she needs a fall back plan. That would be you. She's playing you and has a bad dependency problem. Sounds to me like she HAS to have a man in her life and so she wants to be assured you still care. It's like a job. "I'm quitting here for this new position but should I quit or be fired can I have this old position back?" I may be assuming too much as I don't know much about the situation but as a woman this is just what I think. i thought this was the case also as does a friend of mine however when i asked "have you split up with the other guy or w/e" she said nothing happened, bear in mind this was 4 month ago when we stopped talking so i cant confirm if shes telling the truth or not, the problem is, i know i shouldnt but if she asks me back im scared ill say yes cos i love her to bits thanks for the reply as you said you could be assuming to much but you also reassured my initial thoughts
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