LonePoster Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 "Unsure" Is a thread I made previously. Basically I'm saying I act like a dick and need to change. That brings me to another dilema...What do I want to change into? Not being a dick...a little vague, no clear goals, I'm lost on this one. Change is difficult enough, let alone attempting to consiously change into something you don't know ... So. How do I figure out what I want to change into? I've thought this through. (I've thought it all through) And come to the conclusion that it's based on what I enjoy (Well should be )... This brings me to another dilema. How do you find out, what you enjoy? I have a few things...few being not much ...but they are hardly life changing material (Anime, Pokemon music ...:bunny: ) So how do I find these things? Is there a trick that "normal" people have? Or what? I have had a few ideas on what I want to change into, but they are all stupid. All of them have been based off Holly Wood and anime, providing me with unrealistic expectations of happyness and luck, dragging me down the patch of depression and hopelessness :/... My last question is; How do I avoid these unrealistic expectations of happyness and luck? Also, thanks to people who responded to my last topic. I've decided I will move away...Just not 100% sure where
Compultion Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 This is actually my first time looking at these forums, and while I was going to start off here posting my own stuff, when I found this site this is the page it showed me first, and I actually read it and decided to register and see if I could help any. I haven't read your other thread, but if you believe you are a dick and you want to change so you won't be one, that is already great in itself. I'll try to address these in order so here we go... " How do you find out, what you enjoy? I have a few things...few being not much ...but they are hardly life changing material (Anime, Pokemon music ...:bunny: ) So how do I find these things? Is there a trick that "normal" people have? Or what?" You just said what you enjoy, music, Anime, Pokemon. Are you into Japan or just into Anime? I started off just liking Anime and it has moved into a full blown Japan deal. I actually found out what I want to do with my life due to Anime, so don't say it isn't life changing material, because it is. Are you into playing music and singing, or just listening? If you are into singing and playing then you could try going into a band (which the odds are you getting the money you want and becoming famous are way low, but if that is your dream, then go for it with all you have.) I have nothing about the Pokemon thing heh. "I have had a few ideas on what I want to change into, but they are all stupid." If it is what you honestly want to turn into then there is no way it can be stupid. Just thought I would throw that in there. " How do I avoid these unrealistic expectations of happyness and luck?" It is different for everyone. I used to be the same but I guess going through everything I have has made me more of a realistic, but everyone has to have a journey to find out what they want, staying around and doing nothing will not get you there (which I don't have the right to say but hey.) I hope this has helped a little.
Pedigree Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I have had a few ideas on what I want to change into, but they are all stupid. All of them have been based off Holly Wood and anime, providing me with unrealistic expectations of happyness and luck, dragging me down the patch of depression and hopelessness :/... My last question is; How do I avoid these unrealistic expectations of happyness and luck? Use something more reality-based instead of fiction to motivate you. Try reading up on historical figures to get some motivation.
a4a Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 Perhaps the best way to stop being a dick is to stop being so concerned about just yourself. Try giving to others without strings attached. Start small..... open a door for a stranger, smile and say hello to a clerk,.... stop by a local chairity walk in and hand over $20 and just leave without expecting a "pat on the back".
Author LonePoster Posted June 11, 2008 Author Posted June 11, 2008 I try being nice to others. I always hold the door open for people (Generally anyway ), I buy people stuff from the canteen (Not when they ask unless it's their money, but here and there I offer ), it's just rarer then me being a dick :/ The words seem to just come out and insult . Also the being a dick is remembered more then the small nice things so that makes it hard too :/. After work (Maccas ) I always put my change in the charity thing) And I randomly donated $50 to the recent tragedy in that country that they aren't letting people in (Forgot the name ) And whenever I do something nice people seem to view it as strange . I've tried with historical figures and real life stuff but I don't give a ****...I want to care but I don't. Pokemon gives me a false sense of acceptance and provides my mind with almost a world to hide from my troubles in. I enjoy listening. I used to play clarinet but I quit (What they say bout music helpin maths is true, when i quit my grades dropped ) but yeah I listen to for the same reasons as I watch the anime, the acceptance and false sense of security. With the is it Japan or just anime question well I like anime, anime music soundtracks, martial arts and rice (Rice is damn nice lol) I only realy like martial arts as a small hobby though, certainly not enough to be a Sensai! I actually recently found something I enjoy...only a small thing but a thing none the less. Rom hacking, so I've started learning that and that's keepin me entertained for now, but maybe something similar for a carreer? Then from there build my personality? Damn it is it that hard to find someone or something to love enough to change for them/it?
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