chloe1313 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 my boyfriend and i have been together over 2 years ... i'd seen some flirty emails he'd gotten from girls but it happened like once and didn't continue, then he moved away to the army for 3 years ... when he first got there he was attending a university and he cheated on me (just kissing, not sex) ... i broke up with him but decided it was a moment of weakness and took him back ... i could understand how he felt, being at university, being drunk and away from his gf, wanting to have fun ... he told me he knows how much it hurt me and never wants to hurt me like that again ... its been a year since then and i cant get over it ... he calls me all the time, even when hes at parties and when he gets home but i cant get the trust i had before back, i cant let go so far ... should i? should i believe he hasnt cheated again ... hes in the army with guys all week and on the weekends he parties friday but calls me ALL the time ... has he earned my trust or should i still worry? he doesnt even use the internet anymore so he cant even be "cybercheating" ... i know when he comes home everything will be fine and good again, we didnt have many problems when he was here ... basically, should i believe hes not cheating and trust him again???
cloudeight Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I probably have no right replying to this as I am seeking advice as the girlfriend that just cheated on her boyfriend. But it was a HUGE mistake. I made a mistake and I regret it. I know I am never going to do it again. I'm not even sure yet I am going to tell him. Why? For fear that we will end up in the situation you are in. Right now we have a long distance relationship, I love him dearly, I messed up once, I feel horrible and wish it never had happened BUT it did, I can't make it disappear. Your boyfriend can't make it disappear either, and had he not told you you would trust him right now. You would love him with your entire heart and wouldn't be questioning the relationship. Instead, a year later, while he has done nothing else besides that ONE mistake you can't believe that it was just that: ONE mistake that he regrets because he LOVES YOU. He already feels like a horrible person for having done this to you, he is trying everything he can to prove you are the one for him, give the guy some slack. I really hope everything works out for you guys. Now I have a question for you; would you have rather he never told you?
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