What is my problem? What can i do?

[George26]

Hi everyone and i just wanted to ask this question that i had on my mind for a while. Maybe

you can help me with my problem i don't know.

 

Ok about 11 years a go i met a this beautiful girl in high school and

i instantly fell for her. I had never felt that way about a person let

alone a person that i din't even know. I tried to make advances to her

back then but she rejected me on several occasions due to her being in

another relationship. I was 15 when i met her and had some verbal

conversations with her.

 

I suddenly had to move to a different state and then i din't see her anymore.

It's been about 9 years and since i've seen her. Thru out the

following years i tried to keep her out my head but it was difficult

and impossible. My relationships have basically consisted of 1 night

stands and failed short term projects and the like. Too this day i have never felt the way i felt about that person for another.

 

And just recently it's like someone put her into my thoughts all of sudden. It kinda feels like someone doesn't want me to forget or something. I probably need to move on but how? I mean i don't think it's normal but it's not something i asked for.

 

I know this might sound unbelievable but i kinda feel like maybe i let that

special love everyone gets in their lifetime get away.Can i do anything?

Or did i blew it?

 

Thanks for your time.

Goerge

[MJR]

The girl you remember doesn't exist anymore.

[torranceshipman]

So true - the girl was 15, she doesnt exist anymore, and even then you didnt really know her, she wasnt the love of your life, she was a 15yr old that you didnt really know but were infatuated with (and who rejected you multiple times). It is completely crazy that you keep thinking of her after all this time - move on and stop using her for excuses for failed relationships...

[xpaperxcutx]

So true - the girl was 15, she doesnt exist anymore, and even then you didnt really know her, she wasnt the love of your life, she was a 15yr old that you didnt really know but were infatuated with (and who rejected you multiple times). It is completely crazy that you keep thinking of her after all this time - move on and stop using her for excuses for failed relationships...

 

Life is about moving on, it's been years, and you're trying to hold on to something that's nonexistant. Learn to see that the problem exists not in her but in yourself, and how you see yourself in relationships.