kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 You know how you think about your ex and you get that PANG to the heart that hurts like no other? I feel like that pain is lessening. I feel fortunate for the good times, at angry at the bad ones which I got blamed for, but had no hand in. My ex and I were friends before, while dating other people. I know we'll be friends again, but it may be in 2009 or 2010... Anyway, I think the key is that I'm not down on myself. I didn't ruin this thing. And we have had probably the "best" break-up I could hope for: 1) We didn't scream and blame 2) We didn't live together 3) We had already lived apart for 9 months (in a long-distance R) 4) We care a lot about each other, but know deep down we are best as friends 5) We've been doing NC without relapses. Though she hasn't said it, since we ARE in NC, the no-contact is almost definitely helping her. And it's helping me. I'm glad that things ended in the way they did. I truly can feel peace. I'm not better. Just better for the moment, able to look at my situation objectively and KNOW that I did my best to make things work between us. I've kept my pride and I do love myself. Thanks for reading.
foxh1234 Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Good for you man, you seem to have a handle on things. Keep it up.
Author kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 Thanks fox. I appreciate it. I also hate to sounds so damn POSITIVE. Trust me, each day is like its own planet in the solar system of PAIN. Ha. I'm moving forward, while simultaneously inching back. But the trajectory, I hope, is ultimately forward. I'm going to get thrown when she: 1) Moves back to town 2) Gets her own place 3) Finds another guy 4) Gets married 5) Has kids But hey, f*ck that sh*t, I'll take it as it comes.
Author kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 I just thought of something. Whether you are the dumper or dumpee: No Contact - only good can come from it. Contact - only bad can come from it.
foxh1234 Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I just thought of something. Whether you are the dumper or dumpee: No Contact - only good can come from it. Contact - only bad can come from it. I agree 100%. No Contact is the only way. I am also feeling good today and everyday it gets easier. We will get through this.
BiAxident Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I just thought of something. Whether you are the dumper or dumpee: No Contact - only good can come from it. Contact - only bad can come from it. In my case, no contact meant not being told that I had bills arriving at "our place" as I had forgotten to change the billing address. Thus, after three missed payments, I had a credit card cancelled and my credit score took a nice hit.
Recommended Posts