iwish Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Okay, my story is on here.. in short i got her back after she dumped me, only to be dumped again.. We met up last night for some no stings attached sex in a hotel that can not be named .. We had lots and lots of sex, her 8 orgasms and me 3.. (sorry for the numbers, but i'm quite proud!) When we parted our ways, i told her i loved her.. she smiled and then got on the tube and went home.. as she was going out that night to the cinema with god knows whom.. My question is this for the ladies, what the hell is going on with her that she is using me for sex!! Is that normal? I know guys do it, but is that what the modern girl does? I feel used and dirty... Is that normal for a guy? I miss this girl already..
DazedandConfuzed Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Okay, my story is on here.. in short i got her back after she dumped me, only to be dumped again.. We met up last night for some no stings attached sex in a hotel that can not be named .. We had lots and lots of sex, her 8 orgasms and me 3.. (sorry for the numbers, but i'm quite proud!) When we parted our ways, i told her i loved her.. she smiled and then got on the tube and went home.. as she was going out that night to the cinema with god knows whom.. My question is this for the ladies, what the hell is going on with her that she is using me for sex!! Is that normal? I know guys do it, but is that what the modern girl does? I feel used and dirty... Is that normal for a guy? I miss this girl already.. Lord have mercy you sound like my ex-MM. I told him no strings ... and he becomes possessive and jealous. Yes, women do want "no strings" and if we say no strings we mean it. My reason: I'm just not ready to give it another try. I don't know what she's thinking, but she's proven to you that's all she wants. If you can't handle that, then stop it and be honest ... at least with yourself!
kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 what the hell is going on with her that she is using me for sex!! Are you sure you don't have a vagina yourself? "Using" you for sex? You've got to be f*cking kidding me. Were you not in that hotel room, counting her orgasms, too? Someone please give me a REAL problem.
jerbear Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I feel used and dirty... Is that normal for a guy? I miss this girl already.. Call her up tuesday and go get some. You want more and you got some. She now knows she has you on a short leash if she wanted some booty. IMO, if you can handle the FWB then go for it; otherwise "milk" it for what it is worth and move on.
Nevermind Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 It's normal to feel used and dirty. But you now know that for her "no strings" means: no strings. There is no emotional involvement on her part. If you can handle just having sex, go on. Your post indicates otherwise, so my advice: stay away from her from now on.
Nemo Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Congratulations! But you should immediately spank your monkey five times in short succession, to even out the delicate balance of energy in the galaxy.
kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Y, you're an addict. "One more time" won't do anything but leave you wanting more. Iwish, it's very hard for me to sympathize for you in this dept. A lot of us on this site are dealing with coming to terms with the fact that our exes don't want to talk to us, let alone see us or f*ck us. So please, f*ck this chick and enjoy it, but don't cry to us.
Author iwish Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 thanks guys.. Dazed and confused.. I understand what your saying, don't worry i'm just venting on here, rather than to her.. It's better all round that way.. Jerbear and Nevermind.. You're right, FWB is something i obviously can't handle, i want more unfortunately.. and that sucks that i'm so soppy about it!! i used to be a man Triple Y.. man, it's only sex and i admit it felt great at the time, but afterwards you really do feel like crap Nemo.. Spanking right now And Kizik, sorry dude, i hear what you're saying, i was at the stage of not being able to talk and see her once and it really sucked.. Now i've had some action it doesn't make the pain less bearable, i have to go back to stage one of NC again and try to lose the hope.. And having hope sucks big time.. Again thanks for the input all of you
kizik Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 You got it, sorry if I sounded harsh. I'm just jealous. But the fact is that YOU are probably going to have more starting over, while I might get over it quicker b/c I'm strict NC, no setbacks. My hope is gone, which is a good thing...
Author iwish Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 Yeah hope is a killer, now i have to lose mine all over again!! What we did was so nice, but now it's over you tend to think about it and just know that you have to go back to square one.. That brings you down But to be honest she's dumped me so often that i'm getting kind of used to it , Maybe this time for me, i will be so much stronger! I wish you luck and will probably see you around on this rather cool website.
ioncebelieved Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 After feeling used for sex it makes you understand why woman get so pissed about it. You allowed that one night of pleasure to eat you up... It sucks how her no strings for sex happened, huh? At least you were given fair warning. I would strongly suggest you pass on the next No strings unless you want to be left with more questions than answers. By the way, really not necessary to include the Orgasm break down for us to understand you two had amazing sex. Just so know, Woman like men, will Use you for sex!!!!! For some that see no problem in this... It is a MAJOR problem when you love someone!!!! It hurts like hell!!!!!!! I speak from experience. IT HURTS!!!!!
v33 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I was hoping for "one last time" after we split and I got it. It just made me feel worse as it gave me so much hope, at least in the moment, but the next day she was back with the new man. I didn't feel used, I think she just did it to feel that connection with me once again, but we didn't talk of why we were doing it before hand, no terms, no discussion of it's meaning. The next day she told me we could never do it again as it wasn't fair to "us". I don't really get what she meant as she seemed to have no qualms, but that really hurt me..... Sometimes sex is just sex, even if it's with someone you love(d).
ioncebelieved Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 The next day she told me we could never do it again as it wasn't fair to "us". I don't really get what she meant as she seemed to have no qualms, but that really hurt me..... Sometimes sex is just sex, even if it's with someone you love(d). "Not fair to us" Sounds like her conscious was telling you not fair to the other lover! I really do not agree with sex is sex comment and you don't either. Even though you had sex, you still had love for them even though they had moved on. For them, sex may have been sex! I finally understand the difference between sex and making love. Too bad it took this long and for the person I found it in to hurt me so badly.
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