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monkey00 Established Member

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Whenever I go on dates with a girl, she's often the #1 attention. Though from time to time my eyes may wander if I happen to cross a stunning woman which is only natural for guys. Though some women are insecure, sometimes they catch me and glance at the woman or try to glance where I look.

 

Is this a bad or good thing? It's only natural for me, I don't think I could ever completely stop myself from doing it. Women, what are you thinking when you catch a guy doing this?

Trialbyfire Established Member

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As long as the guy is discreet about it, it doesn't bother me. I look too.

 

I've yet to date anyone who's a pig about it. I'm not much for ill-mannered men.

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It depends on how serious you are about pursuing the relationship. If you aren't terribly into the woman, then a discreet peek here-and-there is OK.

 

If you are really into the woman and want her to know it, then quite naturally you will treat her as if she is the only woman in the room. You won't have to force it, it would come naturally.

 

I suppose my answer to your question is I would assume any guy who looks, and makes it obvious he is looking, is signaling that he isn't that into me. Depending on the individual circumstances, I may be OK with it.

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CAMAYPARK Established Member

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My ex-MM couple of months ago said the following whilst we were on holiday in Bali together. We were guided through by a temple assistant and, the assistant bowed his head and said that he hopes that our wishes comes through. My ex said, I want a young woman. I was like wtf.

 

He did it again in front of one of those tour agents, when the lady agent ask him a similar question.

 

Now, is that even subtle?

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I'll admit that I'm annoyed by this. If I'm going out with a guy, it means that I'm willing to give him my time, energy, and attention for the date. If he's scoping other prospects, it means that he isn't willing to return the energy. Not so flattering. Kind of a turn-off.

D-Lish Established Member

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Hey- I look too... but I never let the guy I am with know that.

 

I expect that men will look at other women- but if they are obvious about it- I will never go out with them again....ever.

 

look!!! But never let them know you are looking!!! That's the secret that keeps everyone happy.

porter218 Established Member

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I get pissed unless it was a very very quick glance, or the woman was wearing something really strange. If the glance was more then a half a split second I just feel embarrassed to be with him.

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It is not good. It is one thing to notice, it is another thing to look so long that the woman that is with you notices. Because she then knows, it is more than just noticing, it is insulting to her.

 

Of course it is difficult not to look at someone good looking. But if you care about the person you are with, don't.

 

Even if you were out on a date with someone who isn't for you, that still would be an insult. And as a nice human being you should not want to do that. If you aren't nice, well go for it. It will hopefully keep you lonely, which is where you need to be if you are mean. :p

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i think he's really bad mannered and ask myself if i really want to be with someone so blatantly rude!! the answer is always NO!!!:)

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I guess I never quite understood the reasoning that a man has to cut out his eyeballs if he's in a serious relationship. I don't have a problem with a guy I'm with checking out girls. WELL...let me preface that by saying that if I'm on an early date with a guy, it's kind of rude. But if I'm serious with a guy, I feel comfortable enough and secure enough that I don't care if he looks. I actually like checking out women myself. Last night I went to help this lady and she had on a short skirt and a low-cut top and I had the HARDEST time not looking at her chest. LOL Generally I point out hot chicks to my STBXH (yes...even before I filed for divorce...haha). I think women are beautiful! Why not appreciate a thing of true beauty? ;)

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Admiring beauty is one thing and looking on with lust in one's heart is another. It's a matter of psychology and behavior. This may seem hard to understand, but, for many guys it's hard to discern between the two. I have no problem, mainly because I see women as human first and sexual second. I can admire their human beauty without having sexual thoughts about them. I know, hard to explain :D Kinda like admiring a Renoir but not lusting after the embodiment of the art....sorta...

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I get a little embarrassed too. Like I'm not good enough to hold my own dates attention. Shows everyone how not great I am. But I think it would be a lot more fair if there just as much men that were stunning. I find that hard to find. Then we can both admire!

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I get a little embarrassed too. Like I'm not good enough to hold my own dates attention. Shows everyone how not great I am. But I think it would be a lot more fair if there just as much men that were stunning. I find that hard to find. Then we can both admire!

Hey, do yourself a favour and next time you're on a date, focus on where and what you're looking at. Hopefully you'll go somewhere fairly crowded, with plenty of decent men to look at. Guaranteed, you'll look too! I know I do. :laugh:

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Hey, do yourself a favour and next time you're on a date, focus on where and what you're looking at. Hopefully you'll go somewhere fairly crowded, with plenty of decent men to look at. Guaranteed, you'll look too! I know I do. :laugh:

 

Hey I WANT to look. Just GIMME something to look at!! Wait....thinking about my SO eh I feel bad. Tell me where the good lookn guys are and I'll bring a girl date.

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Hey I WANT to look. Just GIMME something to look at!! Wait....thinking about my SO eh I feel bad. Tell me where the good lookn guys are and I'll bring a girl date.

Haha...girl date. Too funny. :p

Prodigal Princess Established Member

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I've yet to date anyone who's a pig about it.

 

:lmao: Funny.

 

I agree with TBF; it's natural to check out good looking people. However the key is to do so subtly. What I don't get is why some men don't seem to have any peripheral vision.

 

My ex, who was a perfect gentleman on all other counts, would almost snap his neck whenever a hot woman walked past. It infuriated me that he was so blatant about it but it was almost like a gut reaction that he had no control over. It wasn't a dealbreaker but it certainly killed the mood on a couple of occasions.

 

And weirdmunky, you bring up a very valid point - hot women are a dime a dozen; I'll be lucky to get one decent guy-perve in a week. :mad:

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One of my ex's had a very simple solution to this - she wanted to look at the girls as much as me. I didn't have to go looking; she'd point them out to me. There's just something sexy about having your girlfriend turn to you and say "check out the _ss on that chick!" And admittedly, she had great taste in women.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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What I don't get is why some men don't seem to have any peripheral vision.

:laugh: Next time suggest a visit to the optometrist and see if he gets the jibe!

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Women have better peripheral vision than men- a gift of evolution, allowing us to see the predators closing in;)

 

I expect guys to look at hot chicks- and I expect them to wonder about other hot chicks often.... but I don't want to see him looking or hear about his fantasies.

 

I was in the mall with my friend the other day- and there was a man walking with his pregnant wife pushing their baby in the baby carriage.... he turned around and stared at my friend and I in a really inappropriate way- until he got a kidney punch from his wife. What a jerk.

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I was in the mall with my friend the other day- and there was a man walking with his pregnant wife pushing their baby in the baby carriage.... he turned around and stared at my friend and I in a really inappropriate way- until he got a kidney punch from his wife. What a jerk.

 

When I see a man looking at me when he is with his wife like you are describing. I save her the trouble and say something to him myself..I make sure he is publicly embarrassed enough to think twice about doing it again.

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