Far Behind Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Some of you may remember back in April when I posted a profile about my person on don't date him girl.com. Regardless of what you may have thought about my having done that, here is a very interesting update, and I'm literally blown away and in shock. From time to time I would look on there to see if anyone had read it (there is a counter). Something today made me look to see if there had been any comments posted. Boy, what I in for a shock! It seems just yesterday and today there were two comments posted. I don't know if they are from the same person or two different people. They wrote that this guy is a pathological liar, a drug addict, wiped out their bank account, etc. etc. etc. I am numb and grateful at the same time. I was so broken=hearted over this jackass, and now I am grateful that he got out of my life before anything of this calibur could have happened to me and my kids. I guess he split early on because he knew I had nothing to speak of in my bank account! Man oh man! Hey TLB, maybe I need to put up the L too, huh? I did look at his myspace to see if he was still listed in the same town as he was before. I looked to see if he was on line, too, and reread over some of what we IM'd...I have trillian and don't know how to delete that stuff. I'm sure there's a way. As long as he isn't on my contact list, though, I can't see it anyway. OMG...I'm still shaking, you guys.
Nevermind Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 You poor! Reading those things, even after it's finished and over, is devastating. You're not alone. Try to take comfort in the fact that you indeed dogded a bullet. It is quite sickening, isn't it? The thought of what they are and what we took them for...but it wasn't our fault. (((hug))) He is gone. And that's a good thing.
Author Far Behind Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 Thank you!!!! At first I thought I wanted to contact/confront, or send the information to his boss, because he lives in the guy's mother in law's house...then I realized that would serve no purpose, so I'm just posting here, talking to friends, and moving on. And yes, I did indeed dodge a bullet...makes me kind of a superhero, right? p.s. The bunny is for you, Purple!
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 That's brutal to hear. I feel for you. You're so lucky, especially with kids. People like this, make me sick.
Author Far Behind Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 That's brutal to hear. I feel for you. You're so lucky, especially with kids. People like this, make me sick. Honestly, as sick as it makes me, and it does, I can't stop thinking about how lucky I am. It could have been SO much worse. All he did was disappear on me...he never did anything physically abusive or stole from me. OMG, omg omg omg!!!!!
purplepoodle Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Holy sh*t FB!!! As much as I'm sure it still hurts to read that, I'm sure you're even more thankful that you dodged it. I just added TLB to my myspace. Although I really don't think anyone should have to put the pic up. I haven't looked yet. Not because of the bet, but out of pure fear of what I'll see. Don't want to know. I'm thankful you guys can't call me Kramer, I do have to admit that. :bunny::bunny:
Ariadne Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 That's one crazy website. Dayumn. Imagine the slander.
tealeafbud Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Far Behind, what a way to learn about an ex. Consider yourself very lucky. What a story. There are so many things that could have happened in that relationship besides financial burden. I'm so glad that you checked it and are safe. As far as the wager is concerned, maybe some kind of compromise can be made. Any suggestions are welcome, but maybe putting the pic up on you LS avatar instead of myspace could be one. Of course you'll have to post something about peeking, etc. I won't lie, I've been checking for a few days now...then, out of the blue, she texts me and emails me... I'll try not to check again, but I can't promise that I won't check it again ever. It's so difficult. I'm just so curious I guess.
Author Far Behind Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 Far Behind, what a way to learn about an ex. Consider yourself very lucky. What a story. There are so many things that could have happened in that relationship besides financial burden. I'm so glad that you checked it and are safe. As far as the wager is concerned, maybe some kind of compromise can be made. Any suggestions are welcome, but maybe putting the pic up on you LS avatar instead of myspace could be one. Of course you'll have to post something about peeking, etc. I won't lie, I've been checking for a few days now...then, out of the blue, she texts me and emails me... I'll try not to check again, but I can't promise that I won't check it again ever. It's so difficult. I'm just so curious I guess. Like I said, I looked today. I won't look again. And it isn't a matter of "doing NC"...it is a matter of wanting to be as far away (far behind?) that scumbag as I possibly can. Can I change my name on here, does anybody know? I originally chose it because of the Candlebox song and the fact that it was HIS favorite song. I love the song, too, but I don't need the name as a connection to him any longer. I don't need any connection to HIM at all, ever.
Author Far Behind Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 Still sorta reeling...going through that denial thing, you know, it can't be true. I know what the person posted can be exaggerated or it can be downright truth, unless she responds to me, I'll never know. All I know is he did me a HUGE favor by bailing on me. I'll never stop being grateful for that. How am I gonna trust someone new now? I will always wonder if they, too, are a sociopath. Great way to start off with someone new. NOt that there is someone, just when someone new comes along, assuming, of course, that they will. They will...will I accept them or shun them? hmmmm.
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 Far Behind: Maybe it helps you to think that you would give your ex power and victory, if you were to lose your trust and your ability to truly love. He does not deserve that. (It's just in my head, but maybe my heart will accept it in time. Hopefully, so will your's.)
Author Far Behind Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 UGH...I never want him to have power over me again. I didn't mean to imply that, if that's how it came across. I just want him gone, and hope that the damage he caused is not permanent. I'm typically a pretty trusting and positive person by nature, so hopefully I won't lose that, but will just be more aware.
Nevermind Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I know how you meant it. Don't worry. It's just...if he is going to influence your next relationship, you give him this power. Even though he wouldn't know it and you wouldn't touch him with a barge pole, he would still have meaning for you, and a place in your life. That's why we need to learn to trust again, and to love again. Maybe trust a little less blindly, but trust nevertheless. Or else, our exes have destroyed us. That's what I meant. (And I see, we are at the same page. *smile*)
Author Far Behind Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 Thanks, and you are completely right. Trust less blindly...well put!
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