How do I convince myself that I did not break up with a guy who could be the One?

[jalexy]

I just broke up with my guy of 3 months....yes 3 months (very short) and I am pretty sad. I broke up with him because he cant give me the attention and time i want as well as i will lose him to dental school which will be out of state, in about a year. i always was putting my needs second, most of the time.

So how do I sit here and convince myself that I did the right thing, that maybe if i was just extremely patient for the next 4 years of my life, that maybe he would have been the one i married? sorry this is really pathetic=(.

[Tony T]

I think it would have been pretty lame of you to stay with a guy who couldn't give you the time or attention you needed and, furthermore, was leaving next year for dental school.

 

Why are you trying to mindscrew yourself??? You dropped this guy for good reason and there are many, many guys out there who will immediately meet your requirements for time and attention without having to gamble four years of your life to see if some particular jerk might meet those. That would have been nuts.

 

You did the right thing. Next time you make a decision like this, do your thinking beforehand and not afterward. No matter what you do in life, there is always the possibility things could have turned out differently if you would have done it differently. Hell, if I had put down four different numbers last night I would have won the lottery.

 

Go find something better to worry about and then go find the RIGHT guy for you...one you don't have to simmer on the burner for years to see if he's possibly right of you.

[jalexy]

Thank you, Tony. I really really needed to hear that. I just have a problem with second guessing myself. thank you, I feel better already.

[Heidi2]

You've heard of the word: FATE, right!!! Sure, you both want what's best for yours & his future with dental school, etc.; which is why in my opinion you decided to end this 'short' as you call it relationship with him.. But this does not mean the end of what could still if not already friends relationship. If you still feel the need of care towards him.. then you should if not have done so already remain in contact, whether close or distant... Who knows where anyones future will lead.. But if in your heart you feel that your fate is within this guys heart & arms 4-ever, then give it time.. and reach out in anyway possible.. But not too close.. where there's no room to breath!!!!