Tabatha Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I was woken up by the news of our mailbox being bashed in, and of course my mom and my brother point fingers at my ex boyfriend. So, my mom calls the cops out at 7:30 am this morning and files an report on my ex claiming him "Prime Suspect" in the Mystery Mailbox bashing case. This pisses me off!!! I cry and get into it with her on the way to work. Believe me, I Am going to defend my exboyfriend and testify against my mom for being such a closed minded (Boyfriend) HATER!!! So she says I will be going to jail right along with him. Okay, I know what I know, and I KNOW he didn't do it. He dropped me off at 9:30pm last night and I saw him LEAVE. I called him exactly 15 minutes later (exact amount of time between my house and his house) and he was HOME! And plus five minutes later, he got on Myspace. As my mom claims, he came back while I went inside and did it. Yeah, right. Mom claims his motives were to get back at her and he had "opportunity" to do so. Well, even though she is a BITCH, my exboyfriend doesn't want to waste a breath on her let alone exert the energy to bash in our mailbox. Oh, and on the way to work, a few houses down from ours, towards my uncles, Another mailbox got it worse than ours!!! C'mon now!! It's a freaking teenager. I will put my last dime on it. Schools Out, Hello!!! So anyway fast forward to when I arrive at work. I go in the back to the training room and clock in. I then call my ex boyfriend to tell him and to ask him to come pick me up because I was about to walk out of there and hand over my badge. Of course he went back to sleep and said no. lol. I then asked to speak to my manager and she takes the time to sit me down and listen. I walked in and sat down. She asked me what's up, and I just bursted into tears and told her, "I cant work with my mom!!" We talk about what happened, and I explained to her the situation. The good news is I found out my hours And the fact she said she supports me 100% in whatever decisions I make. She's Awesome! I'm so happy that my day turned out for the good. Now, I just have to deal with my mom at home for the rest of the weekend. I'm ready to get out! I need to find a Room for Rent. Then I can be out on my own and not let my mothers and I relationship get worse than it is. I don't want to get older and not talk to my mom Or have nothing to do with her. AND I still Love my ex and support/defend/believe in him. All this is BS!!! When will my mom stop and realize she is just pushing me farther away???
GPFan Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I was woken up by the news of our mailbox being bashed in, and of course my mom and my brother point fingers at my ex boyfriend. So, my mom calls the cops out at 7:30 am this morning and files an report on my ex claiming him "Prime Suspect" in the Mystery Mailbox bashing case. <snip> All this is BS!!! When will my mom stop and realize she is just pushing me farther away??? Don't fret Tabitha. There is nothing that can come of it since he didn't do it. Your Mother will end up looking silly and vindictive if she pushes things too far. It is an irritant and annoyance, I am sure, to hear your Mother bleating, whining and whinging about your boyfriend. However I wouldn't make any detrimental life-changing decisions. Stick to your plan (you do have one, don't you?) and know that you will soon be out of there on sure footing. I wish you peace-of-mind and sure-footedness Tabitha!
Lishy Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 OH for goodnesss sake show your mum some respect! You sound like a spoiled brat! Your mum loves you and would be there for you (unlike your ex) Grow up hon
theobserver Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I'm sure you've got this several times and it's probably annoying and you want to shoot me because you think you understand the world just fine but you are young, beauty of the net is you can read about girls like yourself all this partially preppy girls who think mum is the enemy when really they just dont want you to turn out like them. while I don't know your mum none of us really do we can only go by what you type etc, PLEASE don't make her your enemy. For one she doesn't even know your FWB with your ex does she, think about that, she's suspects him because she saw him around last and he shouldnt even be in your area since to her your not dating anymore. So it wouldn't be too damn unusual for her to think "oh he must of got mad after he dropped my daughter back etc etc, why are they still hanging out so much" Besides if she did know I'm sure she'd lose some respect for you possibly not everyone can understand the lifestyle your living just like we not everyone can comprehend swinging, cuckhold and other alternatives that may seem whacky to one person but reasonable to another. All I'm saying is try to think of all the positive things your family has done. From what I've read some of your family can be mean to you or atleast how you interperate it but family is family. Unless they are straight up beating you making you suicidal try and keep the peace and as said in a previous post save up some money and move out. Just remember when things go bad you're going to probably want to come home to your parents and if you've burned your bridges you don't want to be excluded from the safehouse of family. Your ex isn't always going to be available one day he will hook up with another girl and if he's serious he will not want you around anymore and your days of using eachother will be done just remember he's just free c*ck right now and your free no complication p*ssy and you can occasionally hang out don't complicate it and remember you broke up for a reason stop depending of him. Seriously one day maybe not now but 5 yrs from now (can you think that far ahead) your going to realise what a ****ed up situation you were putting yourself through. I'm sorry if I sound mean I'm partially bias I had a cousin and she did exactly the same thing you are doing, then she moved out of her parents probably too soon. Evenetually after awhile her ex lost interest, his friend moved in on her but that was just for more freebie sex *rolls eyes* now she begs for money monthly for rent. Your not her but humans sure do go through alot of similar **** and ignore warnings just like the people before them. Good Luck in your future.
Author Tabatha Posted May 31, 2008 Author Posted May 31, 2008 My mom knows I'm still having sex with my ex. She throws it in my face each time I walk in the door. She knew that i was out with him and I arrived home at a respectable time. I'm not a spoiled brat, and if I could sit here and type out every name she's called me, every incident where she hit me, and every time she said that she wished she never birthed me, then maybe you'll understand more of where I'm coming from. Mom may be trying to protect me and see that I turn out alright as an adult, but she does it in the wrong way. She calls me a whore and blah blah and calls my ex boyfriend a loser and blah blah. She didn't approve of my last boyfriend either. My aunt said to me "If you even marry a doctor or a lawyer, she'll find out some reason why not to like them!" And true, my ex boyfriend may not be around forever, but he doesn't deserve being treated how my mom treats him. She's put him and I through hell since our first week of dating. And my family is part of the reason for the break-up. This isn't the first time the cops have been called out. My Uncle and Cousin left threatining messages on his voicemail and my mom hit me while we got into a arguement (then I moved out for a week to live with my ex.) So there is almost 5 months of Drama before hand that I've had to deal with,and it emotionally hit me hard. I don't want to continue with it, and that is exactly what my mom is trying to do.
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