blaze5 Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 this is my first time making a thread and being here so hi everybody. I turned 18 in january and am one of those sarcastic, witty, shy guys and i was in a great relationship for over a year. we did everything together and i felt like i was in what i thought heaven. But she dumped me for a sarcastic remark (obviously not the real reason). Every day since then ive missed her so much, every time i try to talk to her she really doesnt care. I can barely sleep or eat. the only thing i can manage to do is play my xbox 360 but that only lasts for a short amount of time. Ive gotten out of the house as much as i can, ive hung out with my closest friends, gone to the gym, movies and stuff. But all that just seems to help me forget about her temporarily. Either while im still doing that i begin to miss her and blame myself for something i did or could have done that made me lose her. Ive thought about suicide, and regretfully tried it once but at the last second i backed out. Ive thought about going to a doctor and maybe getting anti-depressents or something but my doctor isnt one i really think would understand. Ive talked to my mom about it and shes tried to give me some good advice but still.. i feel miserable, i dont drink or smoke so thats not something to worry about i dont have a job and im not sure i will get one just yet. One of my best friends may be moving down to seattle and his dad said that would be okay if i went down with them and lived there so i dont want to get a job and have to quit a few days later.. im pretty sure that looks bad. Right now i live in Anchorage, Alaska and i guess it can be nice here... But i know i just need people to talk to which is hard because during school i never made that many friends. So what would help me do better? Should i move? Should i talk to a doctor and get anti-depressents? any idea's or suggestions would really be appreciated.
motive2002 Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I'm thinking if you were having suicidal thoughts, a counselor of some type is what I would recommend. Some antidepressants can actually worsen the suicidal tendencies, especially in younger people. But that's just it, you're young. You've got a full life ahead of you with vast opportunities. The world is your oyster! I know it's cliche, but it's really true. This ex-girlfriend is a learning experience. I mean, you really didn't think she was going to be the only one, did you? There will be others. Enjoy being single and on the market. Who knows what kind of cute chick(s) you could meet? Hey man, it's her loss, really. 18 and ready to take on the world! I know I was at that age. Live life to the fullest. Sounds like you've got some good friends and of course your mom for your circle of support. Lean on it. That's what friends and family are for, to look out for each other. Get some counseling. I think it's a really good idea. Couldn't possibly make you feel any worse, so you've got nothing to lose there. Also, go out and flirt. Take some chances. Getting out of your comfort zone is always a rush, and can actually build some confidence. Take care of yourself. No chick is worth ending your life over. NOT A SINGLE ONE and that's the goddamn honest truth.
Author blaze5 Posted June 1, 2008 Author Posted June 1, 2008 its been 2 days i think since i last talked to my ex. ive been trying to keep busy and be optimistic about things. but sometimes i just get a sudden mood change and miss everything about her and doing things with her. I think to myself when will things get better? When will i feel better? anybody got some more advice that can cheer me up?
Davey McG Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 You seem to be doing the right things. Keep busy and keep distracted. Try and have as much fun as possible I'm afraid the pain will last a while as you did go out with her for a year but it will get better slowly. Keep doing what you're doing. If you feel like moving, do it, but make sure you're not moving just because of her.
justaman99 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 What was this "sarcastic remark" and how often do you say these kinds of things to her? Be honest about what you said.
Author blaze5 Posted June 2, 2008 Author Posted June 2, 2008 we used to wrestle and fun stuff like that and it was funny how she would try to act stronger than me but one day i accidently moved to fast and my arm knocked into her. Then a few months we were talking about memories of us roughhousing and she had said "ive never hurt you" and i told her yes because she had accidently kneed me in my private zone during the wrestling. Then she had brought up my arm knocking into her and i had said "ya...you know me i tottaly did that on purpose.:rolleyes:" and she didnt say anything, she didnt look upset until the next day when she broke up with me she used that as an excuse
motive2002 Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 I think to myself when will things get better? When will i feel better?This will take a while, my friend, but it will get better. You have nice memories of an ex that no longer wants to be with you. This is normal, and it will take a while for those memories to be less frequent in your mind, and less painful. Just keep yourself busy. Take one day at a time. It will get better, I promise, it's just gonna take a while, that's all. In the meantime you can visit us here. We''l be an ear to chew on whenever you need it, but don't forget your support circle either. They too have been where you are now at some point in their life, and should be able to at least empathize with you on some level. Hang in there! You've got so much opportunity ahead of you. Try your best to put the past behind you and look forward.
justaman99 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 we used to wrestle and fun stuff like that and it was funny how she would try to act stronger than me but one day i accidently moved to fast and my arm knocked into her. Then a few months we were talking about memories of us roughhousing and she had said "ive never hurt you" and i told her yes because she had accidently kneed me in my private zone during the wrestling. Then she had brought up my arm knocking into her and i had said "ya...you know me i tottaly did that on purpose.:rolleyes:" and she didnt say anything, she didnt look upset until the next day when she broke up with me she used that as an excuse This doesn't sound like the definition of sarcastic at all. You bumped her with your elbow so she basically said you abused or hurt her? What about the sarcastic stuff? Did you SAY things to her that were maybe in good fun but possibly in her mind mean and disrespectful? Tell the truth and we can help you, if you BS then there's not much we can do.
Author blaze5 Posted June 3, 2008 Author Posted June 3, 2008 The way i had said it was in a sarcastic tone. and she knows i didnt do it on purpose because after it happened we stopped wrestling, i apologized alot and made sure she was ok and wasnt actually hurt. She just smiled at me and said she was fine. I still said sorry alot but there was no way i would ever do that kind of thing on purpose or have her think i did it intentionally
Author blaze5 Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 everyday without her gets harder and harder, i really miss her and i feel sick all the time no matter where i go.. is there any way i could get her back?
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