Siphon9a Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Is it possible to get so drunk that you could have sex with someone and completely 100% not remember any of the incidents leading up to the event or the actual occurance? And wake up the next day not ever knowing what really happened?
sally4sara Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 It depends on the person. I have drank till drunk before. Drank to the point of giving myself alcohol poisoning by accident. I still remembered everything from the night before. I am not an alcoholic and have never had problems with alcohol that could indicate that I might be one. The one bout of alcohol poisoning was because I hadn't drank much in the year prior and wasn't ready for my lowered tolerance. I have never NOT remembered things when drinking. I was married to an alcoholic and have had a few friends who had issues that indicated they were alcoholics. They would sometimes have blackouts after only a few drinks. Sometimes they could not remember all the events of a night out drinking. I once watched a guy who could drink massive amounts of alcohol drink two beers and then get kicked out of a party because he peed on the kitchen floor. He had no recollection of it the next day. He was in a band and would sometimes forget that they had even played a show the night before and think it was the day of the show when he got up the next day! This has led me to believe that either some alcoholics have a chemical imbalance that makes them susceptable to black outs and the amount of alcohol doesn't factor in or that being an alcoholic over a period of time makes a person able to have blackouts easier no matter how much or little they drank at the time. Alcoholism is something that can be inherited. I wouldn't call my brother an alcoholic, but he did go through a period where he drank a lot right after he turned legal (as some young people do) and did have a few blackouts. He never really did much screwing up through drinking and it wasn't a habit that stuck with him, but his dad has addiction problems so perhaps he inherited the disease and could potentially become an alcoholic.
non4321 Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I have been so drunk before that I completely didn't remember things, even the day after when they were repeated to me from someone else. If this is the case with you, and you might do things like that when you're sooo drunk, I suggest not drinking as much.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Is it possible to get so drunk that you could have sex with someone and completely 100% not remember any of the incidents leading up to the event or the actual occurance? And wake up the next day not ever knowing what really happened? What makes you ask? This kind of thing is very situational.
SpikeyChick Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Is it possible to get so drunk that you could have sex with someone and completely 100% not remember any of the incidents leading up to the event or the actual occurance? And wake up the next day not ever knowing what really happened? Yes it is possible - Don't do that ever again.
Javelin Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 Is it possible to get so drunk that you could have sex with someone and completely 100% not remember any of the incidents leading up to the event or the actual occurance? And wake up the next day not ever knowing what really happened? It is possible to black out, but the ability to have intercourse with someone is another thing. When you Black out your motor skills are significantly reduced. At this point, depending on how intoxicated you are 1 or 2 things will most likely happen. If your body goes beyond it's limit of alcohol consumption it will shut itself down or try and get rid of the waste by causing you to throw it up. That said, losing conscience and going off and having sex with someone without remembering is a far fetched story and is usually used as an excuse.
sally4sara Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 It is possible to, 'black out' but to be able to have sex with someone is another thing. When you Black out your motor skills are reduced by almost 90% and you can barely even stand up and what not. Think of yourself as a zombie or what not. At this point: If your body goes beyond it's limit of alcohol consumption it will shut itself down or try to get rid of the waste by causing you to throw it up. That said, losing conscience and going off and having sex with someone without remembering is a far fetched story and is usually used as an excuse. I agree that there is a point of drunkeness where a guy would be unlikely to perform, but a girl doesn't have to maintain an erection. And if I've seen a guy play a guitar while while standing for seven songs blacked out and a guy walk over to a corner and un-do his belt and zipper to pee in the corner of a kitchen, I don't think blacking out requires complete incapacitation in every instance.
Javelin Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I agree that there is a point of drunkeness where a guy would be unlikely to perform, but a girl doesn't have to maintain an erection. That is true, but it wouldn't it be rather hard for a male to have sex with a female that isn't aroused? Even though a female doesn't need to maintain an erection, vaginal lube is a key factor in sex and I don't think KY is readily available at someone else's house...
Enema Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 What now, you've never used shampoo or conditioner in a pinch?
sally4sara Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 That is true, but it wouldn't it be rather hard for a male to have sex with a female that isn't aroused? Even though a female doesn't need to maintain an erection, vaginal lube is a key factor in sex and I don't think KY is readily available at someone else's house... Sweaty night, saliva, guy being the little engine that could?
tinktronik Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 The first time I ever drank alcohol, I blacked out and had oral sex with a friend of a friend. I did not remember this till many years later. So yes it is absolutely possible. I am also one of those people who can maintain "seemingly normal behavior" even after having quite a bit to drink. Im not typically a big drinker, just casually these days, in answer to your question, yes, it is completely possible to black out and have sex with someone with no memory of the event.
TiffanyLove Posted June 3, 2008 Posted June 3, 2008 I'm sure it's possible, but not probable. As a woman, you know when you're getting penetrated. And a guy would have to keep an erection. Once in college I was so drunk that I passed out over a "friend's" house... in the morning when I looked at him my memory was jogged and I knew that he had been touching me while I was laying down. The friendship was over immediately. A girl that one of my guy friend's was dating tried to pull the whole "Oops, I was so drunk that I slept with so-and-so." Yeah right... like I already said, it's not probable... unless there was something else in that drink.
2sunny Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 The first time I ever drank alcohol, I blacked out and had oral sex with a friend of a friend. I did not remember this till many years later. So yes it is absolutely possible. I am also one of those people who can maintain "seemingly normal behavior" even after having quite a bit to drink. Im not typically a big drinker, just casually these days, in answer to your question, yes, it is completely possible to black out and have sex with someone with no memory of the event. yes... as tink said - it's possible... i experienced black outs in my drinking days - was a regular thing. i was fully functioning and friends and family had no idea that i'd even had ANYTHING to drink. BUT - there were missing blocks of time that i was unable to account for. i had to piece info together that folks would talk about. the info allow me to "remember" what had happened in my blackout periods. most of the time i was alone - so no worries of harming myself or others... (or having random sex i didn't know about). but it's still frustrating when you honestly don't know what happened. oh and i never threw up - even though i was drinking a gallon of vodka every day and am considered a very slim gal.
mark982 Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 yes it's very possible(know from experience),woke up w/ some beastly girl in new orleans once. god help me:laugh:
AAlike Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 First, to answer the question at hand, yes I think that it is possible...but I also think that it is far more likely that the memories, and most importantly, the impetus driving the decision, are hazy rather than non-existent, and that it's easier to maintain that they forget the whole thing, even in their own minds. the one time that this happened to me (although it didn't result in intercourse, but it did result in me fooling around with a girl that I knew I shouldn't have been), I certainly remembered the evening in question, hell I STILL remember bits and pieces of it more than a decade later, and some details gradually find their way back into your head...but the key is that I don't remember that moment where the hooking up actually started, nor any real details of the act itself. Therefore, the summation of the incident is "I don't remember it". Now, a question for you - is this question being posed to the forums because of another thing that your girlfriend had said? if that's the case, then I really think that you're still kinda barking up the wrong tree with this stuff. If you're looking for "justification" of her actions, that isn't really going to happen. Nothing is going to make it "right" or OK in your mind - you're just going to have to accept that what's done is done and that whatever memories or lasting impact remain from these liasons will become trivial as you move forward.
Spectre Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 If you're drinking to the point you can't remember what you did, you don't belong in a relationship.
Author Siphon9a Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 First, to answer the question at hand, yes I think that it is possible...but I also think that it is far more likely that the memories, and most importantly, the impetus driving the decision, are hazy rather than non-existent, and that it's easier to maintain that they forget the whole thing, even in their own minds. the one time that this happened to me (although it didn't result in intercourse, but it did result in me fooling around with a girl that I knew I shouldn't have been), I certainly remembered the evening in question, hell I STILL remember bits and pieces of it more than a decade later, and some details gradually find their way back into your head...but the key is that I don't remember that moment where the hooking up actually started, nor any real details of the act itself. Therefore, the summation of the incident is "I don't remember it". Now, a question for you - is this question being posed to the forums because of another thing that your girlfriend had said? if that's the case, then I really think that you're still kinda barking up the wrong tree with this stuff. If you're looking for "justification" of her actions, that isn't really going to happen. Nothing is going to make it "right" or OK in your mind - you're just going to have to accept that what's done is done and that whatever memories or lasting impact remain from these liasons will become trivial as you move forward. It never fails that you nail my situation my man! LOL!! Yeah it was one of those incidents and your right. I've dealt with the issue in my mind as far as it happeneing but I was more so curious as to those occurances happeneing to others. I mean there was one night she and I had sex and she mentioned it the next morning and to be honest it took me awhile to remember it but I eventually did. I know there's no real justification for it other than it happenend.
Author Siphon9a Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 If you're drinking to the point you can't remember what you did, you don't belong in a relationship. Your right and neither of us do that anymore.
AAlike Posted June 4, 2008 Posted June 4, 2008 If you're drinking to the point you can't remember what you did, you don't belong in a relationship. well, that's a bit harsh - how about "If you're drinking to the point you can't remember what you did regularly and/or sexually, you don't belong in a relationship." honestly, I think that the whole "get drunk to the point of obnoxiousness/stupidity/unsafe promiscuity" is usually somewhat of an act or a reaction to something, especially when done semi-regularly - and i'd be willing to bet that in a high percentage of cases, it's just a product of bottled-up loneliness. I had two friends that were shy and mild-mannered when sober, but once they had a few, they would become either obnoxious and defiant, or agressively/eerily flirtatious, or do something completely stupid for attention, or something along those lines pretty much every time - even though I was pretty much drinking one-for-one with them and not doing anything like that. sure enough, once both of those guys met someone, all of that behavior pretty much ceased - even on nights in which they drank a comparable amount. i highly doubt that they all of a sudden acquired some previously untapped tolerance - it's that they no longer drank for personality or attention or acceptance. given the situation that you described (very bad, self-esteem challenging breakup), it certainly seems like your GF was doing the same thing. while it sucks that you know the details of this period in her life, and I understand that it is a constant work-in-progress to deal with them, I also know that this should make you realize that she is most likely past this behavior - and really, that's all that you can ask for. if you're happy in the present, that's more than a lot of people have.
Author Siphon9a Posted June 4, 2008 Author Posted June 4, 2008 well, that's a bit harsh - how about "If you're drinking to the point you can't remember what you did regularly and/or sexually, you don't belong in a relationship." honestly, I think that the whole "get drunk to the point of obnoxiousness/stupidity/unsafe promiscuity" is usually somewhat of an act or a reaction to something, especially when done semi-regularly - and i'd be willing to bet that in a high percentage of cases, it's just a product of bottled-up loneliness. I had two friends that were shy and mild-mannered when sober, but once they had a few, they would become either obnoxious and defiant, or agressively/eerily flirtatious, or do something completely stupid for attention, or something along those lines pretty much every time - even though I was pretty much drinking one-for-one with them and not doing anything like that. sure enough, once both of those guys met someone, all of that behavior pretty much ceased - even on nights in which they drank a comparable amount. i highly doubt that they all of a sudden acquired some previously untapped tolerance - it's that they no longer drank for personality or attention or acceptance. given the situation that you described (very bad, self-esteem challenging breakup), it certainly seems like your GF was doing the same thing. while it sucks that you know the details of this period in her life, and I understand that it is a constant work-in-progress to deal with them, I also know that this should make you realize that she is most likely past this behavior - and really, that's all that you can ask for. if you're happy in the present, that's more than a lot of people have. You right on all accounts. I have seen the very same thing. And she has said alot of what your saying to me when we have talked. I just didn't really know how common place the whole situation was. Yeah it is a work in progress but I can tell you it's alot better than the first talk I had with you regarding everything. It is clear that behavior has stopped and is no longer prevalent in her day to day life or while drinking. Even her mom to which I had a long talk with the other day said she is a totally different person that she was months back. Completely and utterly different to the point she is shocked about it all. She broke into tears about it all. Kinda suprised me but I guess I must be doing something right in it all. We've had our share of little problems with things during this process but i'm quick to challenge what I feel or think is wrong when she slips up with things and explain my side and listen to hers, in the end she's admitted she has alot to learn about being in a relationship with someone that gives back to her and just doesn't take. Her mom told me alot about her life and childhood and people she dated...etc....all were the taking, using type. Well I've never been that way I'm proud to say and could never see myself going to that level. But I know she's happy and feels much better about her life and herself so that makes me happy to know.
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