d-a-v-i-d Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Ok there is this girl who i have liked for ever and she is with this guy, but he dont treat her right and she knows it. She is always crying and telling me how bad he is to her. She knows i like her and told me she likes me but keeps on dating him. And im sorry but i know i can treat her better than him. She keeps saying she is gonna leave him for someone better but she doesnt. What Should i do????
rproctor Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 The same thing you tell her to do, find someone better... Dont get involved with someone like this unless you are ready for an emotional roller coaster.
Author d-a-v-i-d Posted May 30, 2008 Author Posted May 30, 2008 i would if i could but there is no one else and i think i could ride this roller coaster as long as its with her.
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 LOL sorry im new! it wouldnt let me Get interested in other girls! Make sure she knows your not as interested in her anymore. Don't dog on her BF, as tempting as that may be.
Balthazar Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Forget about her as quickly as you can. This chick is talking to you about her BF. This is a CLEAR sign that she sees you as a "friend" , not as a possible replacement for him. Remember, women never talk to guys they are interested in about other guys. By the way, listen to this stuff. It is the truth and will save you a lot of worries in the future. CHeers,
J2FT1 Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Forget about her as quickly as you can. This chick is talking to you about her BF. This is a CLEAR sign that she sees you as a "friend" , not as a possible replacement for him. Remember, women never talk to guys they are interested in about other guys. By the way, listen to this stuff. It is the truth and will save you a lot of worries in the future. CHeers, If I had known this a couple of years back, it would have saved me a year of pain.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 You date around as well, dont be her emotional punching bag. I've been there and I'm warning you right now!!! If you aint getting anything out of it there's no need to be there. Live your own life. Be friendly but date others and let her know you aint chopped liver! You should have seen the look on her face when I told her I had sex with my ex! looked like she swallowed a canary! good times!
Cov Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Here's an interesting point that no one else has made, why don't you focus on you and what you enjoy doing? You must have hobbies, whatever they maybe? You should focus on doing the things you enjoy, instead of focusing your attention on dating. As for this girl, she is using you for her own convenience, she comes running to you because she knows you like her. I'd place her at arms length. She is clearly a woman who thrives on abusive relationships, therefore she is damaged and secondly she seems far too dependent and weak willed, the very worst form of a human. Just forget about her and move on. Find someone who is worthy of your time, energy and affection.
MalachiX Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 I say be the jerk she wants and needs. Start smacking her around, getting drunk in public, ignoring her, and walking around with no pants on (the last may not help but it's getting hot these days and why not?) Pretty soon, you'll have this girl eating out of the palm of your hand but you'll be too busy taking children's lunch money and sexually harassing nuns to care. Good luck.
sid3 Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 As for this girl, she is using you for her own convenience, she comes running to you because she knows you like her. I'd place her at arms length. She is clearly a woman who thrives on abusive relationships, therefore she is damaged and secondly she seems far too dependent and weak willed, the very worst form of a human. <<<<<<<<<< DEAD ON!
carhill Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 OP, check back with her in about 20 years to see how the train wreck went....
mixwell Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 I say be the jerk she wants and needs. Start smacking her around, getting drunk in public, ignoring her, and walking around with no pants on (the last may not help but it's getting hot these days and why not?) Pretty soon, you'll have this girl eating out of the palm of your hand but you'll be too busy taking children's lunch money and sexually harassing nuns to care. Good luck. Haha ohh god that was a good laugh well spoken !
TiffanyLove Posted June 1, 2008 Posted June 1, 2008 We attract what we are. She attracted a jerk. She is not *yet* ready for a healthy relationship. We've all had unhealthy relationships in the past. She'll either grow out of this one and move on to a quality guy or the lesson will keep repeating itself until she does... don't waste your time pining over this. Seriously, it's like standing in front of an oven watching a potato bake. Pointless. These things develop in their own time, and if it's meant to be IT WILL happen. Do not tell her that you would be a better catch. You cannot appeal to her logically... this jerk has her emotionally. Instead, show her... by being a good catch to other women and continuing to be an affectionate, supportive friend... but not at the expense of your time or self-respect. If you're there for her at all hours of the night, sacrificing your sleep to listen to her whine about jerk-guy, then you are being a doormat and will never gain her respect and admiration. Advice for you: Hang back. Be cool with her. And find other women to fill your time. Date other women and then tell this girl about your dates. Talk to her about how these other women make you feel. Use her (like she's using you) as a sounding board. This will make you look more desirable. People want things that other people want. It's called "social proof". Use this to your advantage. Also, be sure to show her your masculinity. The jerk guy is making her feel like a woman (as twisted as that may sound). When you act like a man, but are also sensitive, it's nearly irresistible to women. Be manly with a dash of sweetness (but not too much)...like 90% man, 10% sweetheart. And about her... Sometimes people mistake pain for pleasure. Really... love and fear produce similar bodily sensations so it's easy to get them confused. When I was in an abusive relationship, I had no idea that it was abusive... I thought it was love. My "friend" (the guy that I talked to about my relationship) was there for me through the whole thing and is still there for me to this day. Awhile ago, he became more than just a friend after I healed emotionally from my abusive relationship and because he was taking care of himself and dating other women. I wish you the best.
carhill Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 OP, read the post immediately above mine a number of times. Take it to heart. It will set you free. I know this from personal experience, referenced by my remark above about 20 years of it. Good luck!
dreamergrl Posted June 2, 2008 Posted June 2, 2008 i would if i could but there is no one else and i think i could ride this roller coaster as long as its with her. There's no one else because your focused on HER. You're willing to ride it because there's no one else.
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