isthisthewaytogo Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 I am married for more than 25 years. I have two grown up kids. Some years ago we moved to the US for my job. It was very stressfull, i was very busy, and we grew apart. It was not that we could not overcome this problem, but it was not quite the same anymore. I quitted this job and moved on. A lot of things happened, but I never felt that in love with her anymore. later I had to go to Taiwan on a regular basis for my job. I met a nice lady, and I had an affair with her. Later my wife found out about this. We broke up but after a few days we came together again. We did a lot of counselling. This is now 3 years ago. In this 3 years we had a lot of shouting and fighting. Then she always mentioned about me cheating, me going back to this hooker and other stuff like this. I know I have cheated, but every time she mentions I feel hurt. Is this normal, or should I accept this as punishment? Anyway, in a stupid way we got in contact again, and I even managed to see her again on one of my business trips. It felt very good to see her again, and I felt very much in love with her. I try to act as normal as possible towards my wife, but my feelings for her seem to be gone. I try to be nice, even polite, help in the house and this things. At the same time these last weeks she seem to overcome this cheating issue. I was planning to leave her. But I feel still emotionally attached. So leaving might be difficult. And the biggest problem I see is how my children will react. The plan was that I would leave my wife and my girlfriend is planning to come to Europe next month. I don't know anymore what to do. This is confusing to me. Anybody can give advice?
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