sockpuppet Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 This is the first post I've written in a while that doesn't have to do with my ex, which is a good thing I'd say. I'm a bartender right now...and a cocktail waitress just started working at my place and she's seriously one of the hottest women I've ever seen, hands down. I'm obviously not the only one that feels this way, she gets hit on constantly. I'm looking for just a fling at least, if it turned into anything more I don't really care, it's just nice to be attracted to someone again. So my issue is, what's the best way to approach something with someone who is literally used to getting hit on 20+ times a night at work, let alone anywhere else? I can't deny the fact that I'm generally a nice guy and I'm used to pursuing girls in a relationship type way...she told one of my coworkers that I seemed too innocent (a little jokingly) soon after meeting me. I've had some casual encounters but I guess they've just fallen into my lap and I'm not really sure what I did to make them happen vs what I usually do. It seems like I have no problem finding love but when I just want some fun it's harder to come by. Right now she hangs all over me at work and I make her laugh but I'm thinking that's more because I haven't actively hit on her yet and she sees me as "safe," I've hesitated because we do work together and I don't want to screw things up entirely...but I'm starting to worry that I'll drift too far into friend territory soon. So any advice? I can't say my confidence is at its peak after how things went with my ex, but then again being overly nice and lacking confidence in this situation has plagued me a lot. I'm looking for advice from girls that are used to getting hit on a lot as well as guys who have been in any kind of situation like this. Thanks!
Jilly Bean Posted May 31, 2008 Posted May 31, 2008 Well, as a chick who gets hit on a lot, I can tell you that the objectification wears thin at times. I go through these phases where it really turns me off when a guy hits on me SOLEY because of how I look. I like to think there is something a bit deeper... So, it comes down to a very simple premise. If she is also just looking for a fling, then go for it, as she may be into you/it. If she is a relationship type, then you hitting on her for a CE isn't going to win you any points in the workplace...
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