Loukos_od Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Broke up 26 dec.Went NC since late feb.She called my mom mid march just to say goodbye to her.Called me on april 18 and again on may 20.she doesnt want to be with me cuz on april 19 i sent her an sms askin her to go for a walk with me . she said "better not" .if she calls me again how do i handle it? she knows i adore her.she tried to bring the break up thing as softly as she could so she doesn't hurt me . I am planning to tell her not to call me again in a very polite way .Tell her that i am still not ok and that we should be talkin but that can be done much later .Oh . Both times she called the conversation was cold and empty .Felt like it was sth she had to do."how r u ?" "fine""u?""fine" blah blah blah.4 years of relationship.It is an ugly thing.I dont want her to text me or call me even on holidayz birthdayz name dayz. I love her and i would do anything just to be with her again .But i know i cant do anythin about it .So i chose NC .Actually i must think like she doesn't exist .can't stand the thought of her being with someone else.5 months now.Sunday mornin i was cryin like a baby .My life almost got ruined .Wanna be lobotomised.I am so glad i found all of u guyz.Respect
sultry33 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 maybe you could just tell her that its not helping you her calling that you are upset and need time x
D-Lish Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 It's definetely best to treat the matter as if it's over and continue with the NC. I don't think you even have to tell her not to call- just don't answer the phone and take her off your sms. If she's still on your contact list- she'll remain in your thoughts... I imagine you keep her on sms because you have some hopes of a reconcilation. But that hope will prevent you from moving on. If you are going to do NC- you have to do it all the way, it truly is the best way to heal. I have no idea why she would reach out only to be cold and deny you a meeting. That behaviour tells me she is just screwing with your head. Since you are still vulnerable- you really don't need to have any contact with her whatsoever.
Author Loukos_od Posted May 30, 2008 Author Posted May 30, 2008 i don't know if is kind of rude not to answer.i don't know if she is really hopping that i am ok .i know she loves me but in a friendly way i suppose.i am 33 now she is 25 . dunno how it will look if i just don't answer the phone next time . dunno if it would be better to tell her in a nice way not to contact me in any way and for any reason till i finish with this really painfull proccess.from the other hand i don't want to empower her more.who knows . maybe for the first time she will feel my absence<--- wrong spelling ha ?
borelandkaren Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 i don't know if is kind of rude not to answer.i don't know if she is really hopping that i am ok .i know she loves me but in a friendly way i suppose.i am 33 now she is 25 . dunno how it will look if i just don't answer the phone next time . dunno if it would be better to tell her in a nice way not to contact me in any way and for any reason till i finish with this really painfull proccess.from the other hand i don't want to empower her more.who knows . maybe for the first time she will feel my absence<--- wrong spelling ha ? No. Not wrong spelling. NC is only way. Keep your resolve strong. Anything that hurts, you don't need in your life. Of course, we have to feel pain to understand it but why keep dredging things up. NC.
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