seamaid Posted May 29, 2008 Share Posted May 29, 2008 I know they come in many varieties, but in general? There's an army guy who's a possible romantic prospect, as in we started exchanging flirtatious emails. There's always been physical chemistry between us, but we never acted on it (due to us both being shy), until just recently (over the internet). There's no chance of dating him right now, because he's in ranger school and will leave soon for Iraq, and probably won't be back in town for a year. But he has said he's interested in resuming our dialogue when he returns. I am glad to think I gave him something to look forward to while serving his duty. I'm very independent, strongly emotional, and empathetic. A feeler. A creative, compassionate, serious, free-thinking, academic type. I'm not ready to be a housewife yet. I'm very career-minded, and will be doing a lot of travelling myself for my job. I have nothing against the military, esp. after seeing what the soldiers go through, I have nothing but the deepest admiration for them. But my gut tells me this should be nothing more than a fling, if that. What do you think? What kind of woman is best for a military man? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytie TV Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Submissive, loyal, and willing to turn the other cheek. Link to post Share on other sites
662 Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I know they come in many varieties, but in general? There's an army guy who's a possible romantic prospect, as in we started exchanging flirtatious emails. There's always been physical chemistry between us, but we never acted on it (due to us both being shy), until just recently (over the internet). There's no chance of dating him right now, because he's in ranger school and will leave soon for Iraq, and probably won't be back in town for a year. But he has said he's interested in resuming our dialogue when he returns. I am glad to think I gave him something to look forward to while serving his duty. I'm very independent, strongly emotional, and empathetic. A feeler. A creative, compassionate, serious, free-thinking, academic type. I'm not ready to be a housewife yet. I'm very career-minded, and will be doing a lot of travelling myself for my job. I have nothing against the military, esp. after seeing what the soldiers go through, I have nothing but the deepest admiration for them. But my gut tells me this should be nothing more than a fling, if that. What do you think? What kind of woman is best for a military man? Thanks. They tend to like to cheat, thats a commonality. I've been with several of these lonely, sub-missive, soulless women. You should find a woman that is cheating on their bf/hubby shed love that Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Something about your question seems remotely un-PC (since you're asking about stereotypes) but even aside from that, I think it's kind of an irrelevent question. A better one would be, what kind of man is best for ME? Otherwise, you're approaching the whole thing from the wrong perspective. My perception is that military guys end up with trashy dumb chicks. But that's just a vague perception, and I know I should try to let go of biases and stereotypes. Especially since I don't even know anybody in the military. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Two of my sisters-in-law are married to military men. The one who seems to thrive in that lifestyle is extremely practical and efficient. Her house is spotless, and she's always the one who has plans ahead with snacks for the kids, bakes cookies, etc. She can sew, she's a former nurse. You get the idea. She is also very flexible as they have to move around all the time. As an officer's wife, she is expected to mentor other wives in the unit and help them get by while their husbands are deployed. She isn't an introspective, dreamy type at all. I think that would make her life extremely difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Author seamaid Posted May 30, 2008 Author Share Posted May 30, 2008 Thanks for all your replies. I realize it is probably an irrelevant question, since I wouldn't try to mold myself to fit the stereotype of the perfect army wife, whatever that might be. As I've said, my gut feeling is that I wouldn't be a suitable wife or girlfriend of a military man. It just got me interested in what sort of qualities an army man might desire in an ideal mate, that's all. Particularly since they have such a unique, unusual lifestyle of constant travel and hardly ever being home. So, qualities like independence, practicality, flexibility, patriotism, or patience are all excellent answers. I don't know about submissiveness, as that's such a loaded term... but yeah, it seems not uncommon for army wives to up and move to wherever their husbands are stationed at. Well... so much for that romantic prospect! Link to post Share on other sites
MaxManwell Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Maybe a woman that will treat him as a person instead of a picturesque stereotype. You know the man most likely to cheat are the men you women desire most. The reality is he will be moving around non stop, so I guess the best woman for a military man is one that he is married to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author seamaid Posted May 30, 2008 Author Share Posted May 30, 2008 I'm not sure why cheating is brought up at all... The particular army guy I'm talking about is 100% single, and I'm sure he's not the kind who would be dishonest. Besides, cheaters come in all guises, civilian or otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
Replicant Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 What do you think? What kind of woman is best for a military man? Thanks. Definitely a woman who can field strip an M249 under two minutes flat, while at the same time maintaining the roast beef in the oven, and exuding a submissive patriotic sex appeal Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Definitely a woman who can field strip an M249 under two minutes flat, while at the same time maintaining the roast beef in the oven, and exuding a submissive patriotic sex appeal Why do all you men have nicknames for it? Link to post Share on other sites
Replicant Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Why do all you men have nicknames for it? ^^ By what ever do you mean here Miss Fire!? Ironically the M249 does have a nickname: Mini-mitrailleuse aka: Mini-mi. There's no camouflaged play on words, just tactical advice Link to post Share on other sites
CanisLatrans Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I’m an army officer and I’ve been in for a year now. The stereotype that army personnel are more prone to cheat infuriates me. Nobody has ever shown me a study that suggests that military personnel are any more inclined to cheat than anyone else. On the contrary, under the Uniform Code of Military Justice (the laws that guide the conduct of everyone in the military) a service member can be reprimanded even imprisoned for committing adultery. Under civilian laws adultery is not a punishable offense. However, one consideration is that the army is at its highest divorce rate in history. I think the 15 month deployments have a lot to do with that. From what I’ve seen, if a relationship has fissures in it before deployment, the problems will compound while the spouse is away. However, I don’t see why someone should be discounted as a potential partner just because they’re in the military. Link to post Share on other sites
Replicant Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I’m an army officer and I’ve been in for a year now. The stereotype that army personnel are more prone to cheat infuriates me. Nobody has ever shown me a study that suggests that military personnel are any more inclined to cheat than anyone else. On the contrary, under the Uniform Code of Military Justice (the laws that guide the conduct of everyone in the military) a service member can be reprimanded even imprisoned for committing adultery. Under civilian laws adultery is not a punishable offense. However, one consideration is that the army is at its highest divorce rate in history. I think the 15 month deployments have a lot to do with that. From what I’ve seen, if a relationship has fissures in it before deployment, the problems will compound while the spouse is away. However, I don’t see why someone should be discounted as a potential partner just because they’re in the military. As having family and friends active in the military, i absolutely agree that the stereotype is total nonsense. I would say they are very family oriented people, with a strong sense of beliefs, ethics and character. A lot of this comes from the career/education/code of the military itself. Being away on leave really is no different than a typical LDR and unless both people are strong enough to endure such it can take it's toll on any relationship military or not. The divorce rate seems high right across the board, and many modern attitudes surrounding relationships are a reason for this, but this is another discussion in itself. Once again i would say this issue is not specific to the military either. Link to post Share on other sites
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