SadHeart79 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Okay, I'm in a bit of a tricky situation at the moment and I'm not really sure what to do. Here's the story. My ex-fiance and I signed up to lease a house together for 6 months. We lived together for 3 years in the previous house and had to move when it was sold. A few days before we moved into the new house, and after we had both signed the lease, he told me that he was breaking up with me and had found someone else. He also said that he would be moving back to his parents house, but promised me that he would still pay his half of the rent, as he knew that I couldn't afford it all on my own. Anyway, since he has left, I have had to struggle with paying the rent on my own and he has not paid me a thing towards it. My parents and friends are all telling me that he is legally liable for half of the rent, which I know, as he is a co-tenant and has signed the lease for six months. They all think I should take him to court for his share of the rent. The thing is, I know it is the right thing to do, but I also know that if I go through with it, he will want nothing more to do with me and will most probably never speak to me again. I am so angry inside for the position he has left me in, but something is holding me back from taking this further to get my money back. I would hate for money to come between us, but if I do nothing I will keep struggling and resenting myself, and he will get away with not owning up to his responsibility at all. I just feel sick at the thought of him hating me and always thought that one day in the future we could be friends, but he has hurt me so much and if I go through with this he will probably hate me forever. What do I do???
Karyyk Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Take him to court. I hate to put this so bluntly, but you don't even need to be entertaining thoughts of being friends at any point with this man. He left you for someone else, left you in a precarious situation and then failed to deliver on the promise he made to you to fulfill his half of the lease. This is not a man who deserves any more of your time, care or consideration. I know this hurts, but you need to do what's right for you, you can't keep holding on to some idea when he obviously couldn't care less. Take him to court, at least that will take away the stress of having to shoulder everything on your own, which is something you never saw happening when you signed that lease. One last question...since he left, have you had *ANY* contact with him? Have you asked him about owning up to his responsibilities?
Author SadHeart79 Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 Take him to court. I hate to put this so bluntly, but you don't even need to be entertaining thoughts of being friends at any point with this man. He left you for someone else, left you in a precarious situation and then failed to deliver on the promise he made to you to fulfill his half of the lease. This is not a man who deserves any more of your time, care or consideration. I know this hurts, but you need to do what's right for you, you can't keep holding on to some idea when he obviously couldn't care less. Take him to court, at least that will take away the stress of having to shoulder everything on your own, which is something you never saw happening when you signed that lease. One last question...since he left, have you had *ANY* contact with him? Have you asked him about owning up to his responsibilities? Thank you for making me see some sense. I know you, my family and friends are all right about taking him to court. I've just never had to do anything like this, and it's a bit daunting. I was so naive to trust him, and now I have to concentrate on looking after number one. He was my best friend and I guess that's the hardest part to let go of. I haven't had any contact with him since we broke up two months ago, he emails me occasionally and each time I have asked him when he is going to pay me. He always gives me some excuse and I'm done with waiting. I rang and asked him recently, gave him one last chance and all I got was another excuse. I can't wait any longer now. I think once I do go ahead with it, it will give me some kind of closure and I will be fully able to get over him. At the moment, I have to have some kind of contact just to ask him for the money, and I hate having that hanging over me.
borelandkaren Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Thank you for making me see some sense. I know you, my family and friends are all right about taking him to court. I've just never had to do anything like this, and it's a bit daunting. I was so naive to trust him, and now I have to concentrate on looking after number one. He was my best friend and I guess that's the hardest part to let go of. I haven't had any contact with him since we broke up two months ago, he emails me occasionally and each time I have asked him when he is going to pay me. He always gives me some excuse and I'm done with waiting. I rang and asked him recently, gave him one last chance and all I got was another excuse. I can't wait any longer now. I think once I do go ahead with it, it will give me some kind of closure and I will be fully able to get over him. At the moment, I have to have some kind of contact just to ask him for the money, and I hate having that hanging over me. U know, he's not and was not your best friend. My best friend would never treat me like that. This man has treated you badly and you need to haul his arse into court and get some money back. He needs to learn how to honour a promise. And grow up.
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