imyourman Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 I'm having a hard time figuring out what to do. Here is my story, briefly. I am in love with a woman who says she doesn't have the feeling she once had for me, but still wants me around all the time, still really needs me sometimes, has often said that she thought we should just be friends (but also and between these sayings many times said other things). I love her more than anything, and I know that she has some heavy mental issues that are stressing her out. Our relationship also has some codependency issues attached as we lived together and did everything together for the first 4 months. I think that she's bought groceries maybe twice without me in the last 8 months (she suffers from severe social anxiety). It seems like when I hang around with her she sometimes tells me that it isn't fair that I'm holding out for her because she doesn't know what she wants, but most other times basically gives me hope that there is something there. This weekend was the first time since I met her that I didn't get called or messaged from her while working. I kind of got the cold shoulder, and after talking to her I understand that she doesn't think we should be in a relationship, though she wants to be friends. I would like to be friends with her, but I have feelings for her and am worried she may be pregnant. Since this awkward conversation, I have not seen or talked to her, but have responded to a text message and a call with a message "I am at work til 6". I know that she really misses me as an important person in her life and probably even as a lover, but I know that if I go see her I am either going to be really awkward towards her or am going to fall into the trap of seeing something that might not be there. It's like one day we're going to be married, and the next day we should be best friends. We know more about each other than anyone else knows of either of us and have been through too much together to make me not want her in my life. But I don't think I can casually hang out with her. Besides the one text, I have been NC for two days. I know that she will call me or message me soon again, and when she does, she acts the exact same as when we were dating. It's hard for me to talk to her and I can't imagine her with another man yet, so I don't think I'd be a very good friend right now. I'd really like her back, how should I conduct myself?
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