alexa137 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 ok ive been single for about a year now and a guy is finally somewhat interested in me(well he was a fling for a few weeks back in 2001) basically want to know if he is "involved' with any women or if hes getting regular booty calls! i mean i did ask if he has a girlfriend and he said no i just dont want to find out weeks after if i decide to get intimate with him thats seems to always happen to me! but i dont want to be single and lonely and sex-deprived forever!
Tomcat33 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Rule of thumb, if you cannot talk about your sexual status and commitment to each other and whether you are exclusive or not openly, then maybe you should not be having sex until you can. I don't think it's your place to ask him that at this stage. He is free to sleep with and date whom he wants because he is not exclusive with you. That is what dating is, figuring out who will be the long term prospect. Some men tend to shop around more before they settle down with one.
Author alexa137 Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 yeah but with all the diseases etc i wouldnt want to have sex with someone that just had sex with someone else few days before that and you know guys they lie, what guy would tell a girl oh yeah i had sex last night! sure-and when you ask they find ways out of the questions
jerbear Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 If you're worried about diseases, why don't both of you get tested. Then after a few months test again. Just ask, then get tested. Sounds like you are cautious which is great but at some point, just ask, test, then go from there. If you are attracted to those type of guys and you have to ask, then probably you'll have to change your fishing location.
Balthazar Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Rule of thumb, if you cannot talk about your sexual status and commitment to each other and whether you are exclusive or not openly, then maybe you should not be having sex until you can. I don't think it's your place to ask him that at this stage. He is free to sleep with and date whom he wants because he is not exclusive with you. That is what dating is, figuring out who will be the long term prospect. Some men tend to shop around more before they settle down with one. I agree completely. You can't set terms at the beginning, and even if you do, there is a good chance the other person is lying.
Author alexa137 Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 yeah! what guy would actually go get tested if you ask them? i dont eventhink i could bring it up-scared of reaction-like i am crazy i would like to know someone who asked that to someone they meet and it went smoothly-- there isnt many places to go fishing in this area either slim pickens hard to find single men around here!
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