Why can't my BF say "Let's stay together" OR "Let's break up"?

[ChaseYng2005]

So I took my boyfriend back after a 2 week "break." We really enjoyed each other's company on memorial day. But today he won't answer my calls or anything. I told him I love him, but if his heart isn't in it, just tell me. If he wants to breakup just TELL ME.

 

He hasn't responded at all. Ive called his home phone and cell. NO RESPONSE!!!

I can handle a guy telling me he wants to break up and I can deal with a guy wanting me. BUT I CANT DEAL WITH LIMBO!!! His silence is deafening. Is it that hard for the bastard to say "yes, lets break up" or "no, lets work this out"????

 

Is his lack of response saying "yes, i want to break up"?

[Mary3]

So I took my boyfriend back after a 2 week "break." We really enjoyed each other's company on memorial day. But today he won't answer my calls or anything. I told him I love him, but if his heart isn't in it, just tell me. If he wants to breakup just TELL ME.

 

He hasn't responded at all. Ive called his home phone and cell. NO RESPONSE!!!

I can handle a guy telling me he wants to break up and I can deal with a guy wanting me. BUT I CANT DEAL WITH LIMBO!!! His silence is deafening. Is it that hard for the bastard to say "yes, lets break up" or "no, lets work this out"????

 

Is his lack of response saying "yes, i want to break up"?

 

You *are * broke up.

[Kellicakes]

I don't think it automatically means that he wants to break up, but radio silence is never a good thing. Obviously he does not want to talk right now for whatever reason. Maybe he is trying to put space between you. But ignoring you is immature.

 

Why did you guys break up the first time? If he can't communicate with you, then you should really think if you want to be with this guy. I just went through a similiar situation with my now ex. He would disappear for a few days and not return my texts...and then come back and apologize and say he was "thinking". If someone does not care more about your feelings than to have you sit there and worry and wonder, then that person is not worth your time.

 

It's hard, but you may have to prepare yourself that this is over. You asking him a direct question like that also may have put him on the defensive, and he may not be sure what to say. I say back off, give him space, and let him contact you. Sorry you're hurting

[ChaseYng2005]

I broke up with him because he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. He felt distant. Whenever I wanted to talk about it he would find a way to avoid it.

[justaman99]

I broke up with him because he wasn't as affectionate as he used to be. He felt distant. Whenever I wanted to talk about it he would find a way to avoid it.

 

I think my ex felt the same way as you as I would avoid those conversations. I regret being that immature. It's a shame he can't talk about it openly. He must be feeling something. We should never avoid talking to those we care about, unless, well, he doesn't really care anymore.

[Mary3]

I think my ex felt the same way as you as I would avoid those conversations. I regret being that immature. It's a shame he can't talk about it openly. He must be feeling something. We should never avoid talking to those we care about, unless, well, he doesn't really care anymore.

 

Wow very well spoken ! For your information OP , the fact that he may be unconscious and in the hospital is slim to none compared to the fact that he is purposely ignoring you. His silence speaks LOUD ...

[Exl]

warning sign. i smelled it for miles even not knowing the full story.

he's passive aggressive. same with my ex-gf. google it up and read about it and i'm betting high that you'll find your man profiled almost to the very tidbits.

that is definitely not good. it screws with your head over and over. you're probably better off it, trust me. now i wish i could take that advice to myself.

 

i also had to break with my gf but took me a year to do so. trust me, you don't want to be with a PA person. it just... breaks you. REALLY bad. I mean it.

[Kman21]

In my experience, yes he wants to break up, he is not responding to you probably because he is afraid to tell you. Keep us posted.

[sunshinegirl]

I've had two exes pull the disappearing limbo act - non-communication until it was forced out of them - and it never ended well. I'm sorry.