solomon Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 so i met this new girl through work, she works in my office bldg for a potential business partner. anyways, i called her last thursday to ask her out for lunch and she accepted. then on friday she emailed and said she couldn't make it because one of her clients was going to launch a website and she needed to be around in case anything goes awry. seems like a fair excuse to me so, when should I ask her out again? maybe just for drinks next time? suggestions?
SpikeyChick Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 so i met this new girl through work, she works in my office bldg for a potential business partner. anyways, i called her last thursday to ask her out for lunch and she accepted. then on friday she emailed and said she couldn't make it because one of her clients was going to launch a website and she needed to be around in case anything goes awry. seems like a fair excuse to me so, when should I ask her out again? maybe just for drinks next time? suggestions? One flake is tolerable - two strikes, she's out. A decent women who bails out of a date should make a counter offer - not just leave you dangling on the end of the phone when she tells you she can't make it. Unfortunately a lot of my sisters are NOT socially mature and have no clue about courtesy and good manners in matters like this. Gentlemen, How a woman treats a guy at the start is a clue to her character. Bad - She calls ," Hi Solomon, look I have a client who is launching this website ,and ...... I can't make it tonight..." Then she just goes silent and says nothing more and just waits for you to take over.. Good - She , " Hi Solomon, Hows it going ? Unfortunately something has come up at the same time that we had our date planned. I won't be able to make it this time. I'm really sorry about this but, how about same time, same place next Friday?" You see the difference? If I were a guy I would probably downgrade the first girl but upgrade the second response. My 2 cents.
J2FT1 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 One flake is tolerable - two strikes, she's out. A decent women who bails out of a date should make a counter offer - not just leave you dangling on the end of the phone when she tells you she can't make it. Unfortunately a lot of my sisters are NOT socially mature and have no clue about courtesy and good manners in matters like this. Gentlemen, How a woman treats a guy at the start is a clue to her character. Bad - She calls ," Hi Solomon, look I have a client who is launching this website ,and ...... I can't make it tonight..." Then she just goes silent and says nothing more and just waits for you to take over.. Good - She , " Hi Solomon, Hows it going ? Unfortunately something has come up at the same time that we had our date planned. I won't be able to make it this time. I'm really sorry about this but, how about same time, same place next Friday?" You see the difference? If I were a guy I would probably downgrade the first girl but upgrade the second response. My 2 cents. That makes a lot of sense. What if a girl says, "I can't make this day because...but I can go this and this day...or you guys can go without me..." This is my situation.
SpikeyChick Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 That makes a lot of sense. What if a girl says, "I can't make this day because...but I can go this and this day...or you guys can go without me..." This is my situation. Any kind of counter offer is courteous and a good indicator of high interest (and a decent character). In fact courtesy from anyone could also be thought of as an indication of attraction in itself. (Write that on a PostIt girls).. A women who does neither is probably a suspect, not a prospect. Guys, if you have to WORK at getting a date and she flakes more than once and is offering you nothing but confusion and unpredicable behavior, then lose her number. She is either someone who believes that she can do whatever she wants and guys will tolerate it because she is the owner of a p**ssy - or she has low interest in you. Either way you do not want to waste time on her. Decent women act decently.
MadDog Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 A counter offer is nice but many girls, even if they are interested, don't have the common sense to do it. Just ask her out again next week. If she gives doesn't go for it for whatever reason, just move on. MD
Star Gazer Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 A counter offer is nice but many girls, even if they are interested, don't have the common sense to do it. Just ask her out again next week. If she gives doesn't go for it for whatever reason, just move on. MD True, I'm guilty of that as well.
Legend Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Another mistake was asking her out on lunch. never do lunch dates.
kimba Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 She should have phoned instead of emailing. The first thing i thought of was that she is making an excuse and its easier to lie over email. And yeah she would have suggested another time
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