Mahatma Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 The day after prom, I went with a bunch of friends to a water park and there me and this girl seemed to really hit it off. We talked for a good hour and a half on an inner tube and later that day I got her number and she got mine. I wasn't even thinking of contacting her for atleast a day or two, but then she texted me when we were on the ride home (there were 2 cars 1 wit the girls other wit the guys). So I talked back with texts for the next couple days. Then I called her and we talked for like two and a half hours. More texting, then more calls.. you get the point. The day after we met she decided we should go on a double date and see a movie. So we did that on Friday. Before that double date, she had asked me to go out to get some food with her, but I was busy and didn't get the message until later. Then we had our date and it was just a normal first date. We held hands and thats about it... no kissing or anything and I didn't try. Then on monday I wanted to see if she wanted to do something and she seemed cool wit it.. then she just plain forgot about it. Basically this happened 3 times.. first she was just too busy, then she completely forgot, then the next time she just didn't even bother calling back. Then the texting stops and then she stops picking up the phone, or shed pick up and just say shell call back later, but never would. Finally I texted her (would rather have done it over the phone but she doesn't talk on it anymore) and I asked if she was angry at me and she said no... so then I asked why she doesn't return calls or even talk to me and she responds with a "sorry i have a life" response. I find it hard to believe that someone can't find time in a 3 day weekend to go out for just 45 minutes if they actually want to find that time. After that I met her at the usual time after class ( we are both seniors) and we talked and she seemed fine, but obviously something is wrong. So later I talked to my friend and he said to just stop meeting her after 3rd. I personally don't think I should be giving someone time who won't even attempt to give me theirs. I just don't know if I was missing something. It seemed to me like she was the one more interested in having a relationship than me... then it just stopped.
carhill Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Hello! Teenagers.....you're not missing anything. She's on to the next interesting distraction. Time to head up to the lake
Author Mahatma Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 Hello! Teenagers.....you're not missing anything. She's on to the next interesting distraction. Time to head up to the lake *gets in car*
fishtaco Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I personally don't think I should be giving someone time who won't even attempt to give me theirs. Yup, that is correct. You are certainly smarter than me when I was your age. If she doesn't show interest, move on to the next girl. BTW, this sort of behavior doesn't stop after the teenage years. This is just part of dating that's all. The plus side is, you have the option of doing the same thing too. Maybe next time you'll flirt with some girl, then later decide you're not interested anymore. Then you'll be glad this is a "legal" dating behavior.
Author Mahatma Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 damn.. that seems a bit like a stretch. The only time I see her is right after one of our classes so I'd do it right in front of like.. 200 people who are all in that same area n I'd rather not take a slap right there.
LoveLace Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 I agree that maybe she just didn't feel you were into her enough romantically; you were only being a respectable guy which is awesome...not that girls mind taking it slow...but one step at a time is sufficient. If she didn't feel you moving toward the next step, she lost interest. But it also depends on the girl - we are talking about teenagers here. I ask does this girl have any reputation about herself? (she's fast, she's prude...) anything of that nature? It just might help if you knew her previous experience in dating, maybe it could give us answers as to how she have turned on you this way. Weather or not it's necessary to try again, I don't know. I'm just saying for example, a girl with a "fast" rep might think the OP just isn't horny enough for her. A girl with a "prude" rep might not change her mind about him so quickly. To put it simply, she found someone on the same page as her. You haven't done anything wrong, in my opinion.
Author Mahatma Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 well this girl strait up told me on the phone one of the few times we talked that she believed in no sex before marriage. I've heard this before and I don't think it should stop me from attempting a relationship... but I usually just move slower with these types. So I did.
LoveLace Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 A girl is a lot less likely to hold an attempted kiss against you than if you didn't try at all. If you try to kiss a girl and she's not ready she will usually just turn her head and you'll hit her cheek so no harm no foul as long as you were respectful. If you don't have anything to try you might as well move on and think about other things don’t worry about this. I agree with this I say just go for it if you feel ready
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