YoMamma Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 So... I have been facebooking this one gal who is a mutual friend of myself and my ex. I do my best not to ask her questions about him because I know that... it all doesn't matter anymore... my relationship is over, I get it. In recent news, she has confirmed some suspicion, I think my ex is seeing someone new. This news breaks me heart and I don't know why. I should be thankful for him to break up with me so that I can find someone better. Cause please trust me... my ex is a horrible person. He's very flirtatious and I think he has been flirting with women even when we were dating (we were LDR). And that's not cool... I don't flirt with other guys... all I wanted was him and ONLY him. I'm a friendly person, but I know what's stepping over the line. I don't know why I didn't break up with him first, I thought about it so many times before, because he does/says things that really hurt me and a lot of times I feel that he doen't feel badly about them. I guess us girls are wired to cling on and not let go. I'm really sad guys... we were friends turned bf/gf turned exes... and probably nothing more after that. How can he move on so fast? 2 months? 2 freakin' months?!? We were dating over a year... and it may not seem that long to most of you, but this was my first relationship and I was really serious about him. I'm trying my best not to cry, because that just means the HE wins. I hate facebook btw, it's evil. You learn so much from it. And no, I didn't go looking at his profile, I stopped that bad habit a long time ago. I am curious what is going on in his life and I'm curious about his new girl... new girl... that hurts to write that I mean... I can't even imagine hooking up or dating at the moment. I'm so hurt by him. Does he not feel anything? Sorry for hurting me? Or the memories we had? How can anyone be made of stone? I can't get it in my head that he was worthless piece of sh*t. Why should I even ****in' care? I don't care and yet I do... does that make any sense to anyone here? I'm so hurt and so lost. I feel like I'm back on square 1. How and why would He do this to me? I was so kind and thoughtful to him and giving. Why did he take me for granted??? Help please... I don't need him to validate my worthiness I just don't get it how can anyone just find someone else so quickly?
Mark UK Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 As I found out when someone no longer loves you it's easy for them to move on. Cause you like me are still in love with your ex you can't imagine ever wanting anybody else but they don't feel that they are ready to go out and love again as I hope we both will be when we get over our ex's. My fiancee took 4 days to meet someone new. When the other person no longer loves you then you really do see a different side to them and they are no longer the person you thought you knew. Let's hope we can both get over them - you are not alone. Take care
roghornio Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 My fiancee took 4 days to meet someone new. She didn’t wake up that morning and decide to dump you though… she probably had been thinking about it for a while… the day you split up she would have been sure in her mind it was the right thing to do , and it’s sad to say – but had probably moved on in her head. That’s why they don’t hurt, and are oput having fun etc etc… brutal as it is... it's cause they just don’t care anymore.
Lippy2 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I too believe that it's easier for the person who fell out of love with you to move on. It's very difficult for those of us who are still very much in love with them, they consume our thoughts. I was friends with my ex for about 10 years before we dated and we dated for 4.5 years. It's really hard and still is..... Try to keep yourself busy... That's what I have been trying to do, somedays are better than others. Cry if you want to, I didn't at first either but I have now and it feels good to let it out. They don't have to know that we cry. Let it out, you have to heal !! We are here for you!!!
JustPassingThru Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 She didn’t wake up that morning and decide to dump you though… she probably had been thinking about it for a while… the day you split up she would have been sure in her mind it was the right thing to do , and it’s sad to say – but had probably moved on in her head. That’s why they don’t hurt, and are oput having fun etc etc… brutal as it is... it's cause they just don’t care anymore. That is the sad truth.
Author YoMamma Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 4 days? What the hell was that about? I'm sorry to hear that Mark UK... some people I guess just move on quickly then others. I don't get it myself. Maybe it's a rebound relationship? And I haven't heard anything good coming out of rebounds, but you whatever. He's no long a part of my life so I shouldn't care about what he thinks/feels. God knows that I did the best I could. 2 months... that's not really that long is it now? lol I hope that one day I can look back at this relationship and laugh. I mean, what the hell was I thinking? Yeah, so I did cry some today and it felt natural. I couldn't hold back the tears. He's soo not worth my time or tears really. He's worth nothing to me. I just hope and pray that I find someone better. I have so much love to give and it would be nice to be loved back. Well, you haven't heard the last from me yet, I have some healing to do still.
purplepoodle Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I know how you feel. My ex is engaged 2 1/2 months after our break up. It hurts and it sucks. We'll get through it though
justaman99 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 My ex started flirting with some guy on Facebook days after she broke it off with me. I knew then I had to delete her as a friend and I really didn't care to look at her profile anymore. Best thing I ever did. I know she started dating him very quickly. Can't say it surprised me. As I was coming in some other guy was on his way out. Oh well, her loss really. -Just
Author YoMamma Posted May 29, 2008 Author Posted May 29, 2008 I know how you feel. My ex is engaged 2 1/2 months after our break up. It hurts and it sucks. We'll get through it though Okay, I have to say this.. what the hell is wrong with people? I mean... no offense but... doesn't it take years and years to get to know someone? Do people not understand the concept that love takes time? lol Sounds like somebody is making a huge mistake... just my opinion though. Divorce rates are so high, I don't even know what true love is anymore. He probably wasn't worth your time Purple if he pulls **** like that. Let's just see how well his marriage goes My ex started flirting with some guy on Facebook days after she broke it off with me. I knew then I had to delete her as a friend and I really didn't care to look at her profile anymore. Best thing I ever did. I know she started dating him very quickly. Can't say it surprised me. As I was coming in some other guy was on his way out. Oh well, her loss really. -Just You're right you know... do people tell you that alot? lol I kid I kid. That ****ing sucks dude, what a bitch! But deleting my ex off of facebook is probably the best thing I have ever done too to be honest. And you know what? Screw our exes, we're way better off. People take advantage of people like us because we are kind, gentle, and very giving. No more... no more... I don't want to hurt anymore
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