dmrbrad Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been together for almost six years now. I've left a couple of posts about us in the past. We have 2 wonderful daughters together. She cheated on me with a coworker when our first daughter was 6 months old. I didn't find out until she was 4 months pregnant with our second child. I've covered all this in previous posts. This was about a year ago when i found this out. We have gone through some ups and downs obviously over the past year but now my girlfriend is acting the same way as before when she cheated and she swears nothing is going on but its hard to ignore. She shows absolutely no affection towards me. I have brought this up over the last 3 months or so and she blames it on depression but i've heard all that before. Financially we are kind of stuck together. She's not working and i work 60 hours a week. Her mom stays with us also so she has plenty of time to herself. She "works out" everyday for at least 2 hours. During this time I'm at work and she does as she pleases. I'm thinking about going out and having a good time and doing as i please. Am i wrong for considering this?
thewholeshabangg Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 i would never suggest cheating, and just because she cheated does not mean that it is okay for you to. however it does sound a bit like she is taking advantage of you and what you do for her (sorry i did not read your other posts). have you ever discussed counseling?
whichwayisup Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Two wrongs do not make a right. Besides, one of you two need to be the stable Uncheating (is that a word?) parent. You'd be better off separating and making custody arrangements or going to marriage counselling. Choosing to cheat is just a reaction to what she is doing to you. Don't do that to her, don't stoop to her level and definately don't betray your own children either.
mark982 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 i don't believe in cheating to get even. either work your problems out,or move on.
theobserver Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Nothing to work out. She's not appreciating you. You've made attempts to talk about this and she's not sharing. Doesn't seem like your getting any intamacy either. Now your working long hours it's a matter of time before she decides to have another fling. This relationship was over the first time she cheated. Having children involved sucks but you know what sh*t happens. So tired of people saying make it work for the kids pfft. Just read around the forums it hasn't stopped any others. I'm not going to say cheat but honestly I think you deserve better. You can still be a good father without being with her. Don't be a tool though Break up with her explain how you both want to handle the child situation and living situation then start dating and sowing some oats. Don't live with a giant SUCKER on your forehead for the rest of your life. If years down the line somehow the children resent you when they're older (depending on whos taking major support of them and if she feeds them nonsense) explain to them your mother cheated on me and I could never love her the same way but I love you dearly even if you can't understand. Good Luck
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 She's not working and i work 60 hours a week. Her mom stays with us also so she has plenty of time to herself. She "works out" everyday for at least 2 hours. During this time I'm at work and she does as she pleases. I'm thinking about going out and having a good time and doing as i please. Am i wrong for considering this? So... your paying for her to stay home and cheat on you? Honestly... I think you would be happier without her! Do it before you find out she is cheating again. Maybe the OM is 60 this time.
twice_shy Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I'm thinking about going out and having a good time and doing as i please. Am i wrong for considering this? Why lower yourself to her level? Why don't you break up with her and find someone decent? Although I would like to see how she'd react if she found out you went out and did the horizontal mambo with another girl.
Javelin Posted May 30, 2008 Posted May 30, 2008 Screw cheating, that would be too easy on her. I'd suggest kicking her (and her mom) out and watch the fishies drown. You could also take full custody of the children and move far away, so she couldn't afford to see them. Although, if you must cheat, why not impregnate her mom? That would probably be the biggest payback of all time. (I'm kidding! )
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