broken425 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I have no idea what to do w/ this problem. Please help before I mess it up more. ok last month I was at a week long meeting for work. I meet this girl who was in my class we had small talk I found out that she needed some help studying for her exam i told her I will be more then happy to help her out. we talked a little each day. well fri after we got out of class we talked in the parking lot for a little I told her if she wanted my help studing I will be more then happy to help her. So she emailed me that night to say thanks for offering my help and she will defently take me up on it. So I went to her place tues to help her. We studied, had dinner then studied till about 10pm. I started packing up my stuff and as i was heading out we could not stop talking an hour later I told her i gotta go, it was getting late and she had to get up early, so she said she would walk me out. we get to the parking lot and kept talking, bout 30min later we said goodby. so we talked on wed. and I said i would help her again on thursday so thurs came and I went to help her out. when i was leaving the same thing happend we where talking at the door then i told her i should go cause its 11pm and she had an early morning so she walked me out again we talked for another 1/2 hr then i left. i got 10 min out on the expressway then jumped off on the next exit flew back to her place and told her that i know you have a lot on your plate w/ your exams but i had to let you know that i am getting feelings for you. she said I am getting the same, but we should talk about that after her she passed her test. when i got home she sent me an emil saying dont worry about tonight we are still cool I just want to take things slow because of what I have been threw w/ guys in the past and I need to focuse on these test's well the first test came and she missed it by a few points. I told her I was in her area and if she wanted we could go for a walk and talk about it. I said what i could to try to build her confidence and tell her she will get it next time. Up to this point are talks and emails could go either way. she just wants to be friends, she was using me for help, or she does have feelings. She re-took the exam and missed it again.now i am getting a feeling that she just does not want to talk to me anymore. I understand that she could just be upset because of missing the exam. I just feel like I messed up by telling her how I felt. I just have no idea how to handel this. I sent her emails being very supportive. I just feel like she does not want to talk to me anymore. anybody have any ideas on how I can handel this. I do not want to mess up again. Hope this makes sense and its not just a bunch of words.
whichwayisup Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Back off abit. Let her call you.. You were honest and upfront about how you felt about her, and I think she feels something for you, but is scared. And has alot on her plate right now, so that is another reason to try to back off slightly in the sense of bringing up feelings and stuff. If by chance she isn't interested, you'll know soon enough. And what I mean by that is, if you back off and she doesn't start contacting you abit more often, then I would take that as a sign she isn't feeling it for you. Good luck and keep posting.
Author broken425 Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 I see what you are saying. I have not said anything about "feelings" since the day I told her. Since I said something to her it seems harder to ask her to dinner (as friends) just to try to help her forget about the tests. I knew I should have kept my mouth shut thanks for your help.
Author broken425 Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Again thanks, well it turned out she was playing me..... I just do not understand how somebody could be so nice to you, flirt like crazy, tell you I have feeling for you as well and then kick you in the head...just makes me loose faith in women cause now I can never tell when somebody is lying or telling the truth. thanks againg for your help, it gave me piece of mind for a few weeks.
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