Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 My bag was stolen from a bar last weekend. I was sitting outside with a friend when someone ran past, grabbed it and sped off. It all happened very quickly and I was pretty shocked. Anyway, so we told the bar staff who called the police. As I was standing there looking distressed, not knowing what to do next, a (very cute) guy walked up to me and introduced himself as an off-duty police officer (he'd been at the bar with mates). He calmed me down and then called up to cancel my cards, phone and blackberry for me. There was definitely some flirting involved from both sides. He then searched around the outside of the bar in case my bag had been dumped. Unfortunately it hadn't. Anyway, after making sure I was okay, he left while I waited for the police to show up. A few days later I sent a letter to the officer's supervisor (he had told me what police station he was from) telling him how much the off-duty officer had helped me and gone out of his way to try and find my bag. I'm a big believer in thank you notes. Anyway, two days ago I got an email from the officer! It was along the lines of, 'Thanks very much for you letter to my supervisor, it was no trouble at all to help you. It would have been nice to meet in better circumstances. Perhaps you would like to catch up some time' and it gave his mobile number. So now - I think I will send a text message to him tonight. However I have no idea what to say. I'm thinking of keeping it short and sweet - "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise..." Um, and then what? I am clueless at this stuff, I have never really made an obvious move on a guy before and it makes me feel . Id like to write a text message that gives him the OK to suggest meeting up but is not too obvious that Im keen. Please tell me how you think I should go about this!
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise. How about catching up for coffee sometime? Now that I know you are an upstanding citizen, I'd like to help preserve that tradition in any way I can. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your help the other night, but I could have a crack at showing you. Give me a call! Cheers. okthanxbye
OpenBook Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 As I was standing there looking distressed, not knowing what to do next, a (very cute) guy walked up to me and introduced himself as an off-duty police officer (he'd been at the bar with mates). He calmed me down and then called up to cancel my cards, phone and blackberry for me. There was definitely some flirting involved from both sides... It was Gold Pile!! What'd he look like?
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 It was Gold Pile!! What'd he look like? How about posting something helpful? Come on, now, get back on-topic.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Perhaps you would like to catch up some time' and it gave his mobile number. Where was the mobile number located on the email? Was it below his name, in a business formatted style signature or was it embedded in the content of the email?
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Keep it as short as possible. But make it clear that you would like to see him again. If he likes you, then it is pretty much immaterial what you write. Cute or crap - if he's got the scent, then there's no turning back.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 Well he was wearing an Armani jacket so it definitely wasn't Gold Pile. Nemo, I like your style. However part of the problem I have here is the very fact that he is an "upstanding citizen". As you know, I am a trash bag and we tend to congregate with others in the gutter. I guess its more of a question for when I do actually see him but I wonder if all police officers are goody two-shoes? But onto the text message, would it be enough for me to just say something like, "Thanks for your email... So now you have my number..."?
Miss Right Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise. Catching up defintiely sounds good. What do you have in mind? Thanks again for helping me out the other night - it's not often you meet such gentlemen. ... and just lead him intitiating the first move...that's how I would do it....but who knows, I'm not too forward myself.
Miss Right Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 But onto the text message, would it be enough for me to just say something like, "Thanks for your email... So now you have my number..."? No...it's not enough. It could take him forever to get back to you...you have to show more interest than that if you're actually really interested. Leave something where he would have to respond...
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 Where was the mobile number located on the email? Was it below his name, in a business formatted style signature or was it embedded in the content of the email? He wrote it next to his name. It wasn't just a "thank you" email (just like my letter wasn't just a "thank you" letter). Nemo, if text him even with just my name or something, isnt that clear enough that I want to see him again? I really want to avoid saying anything that could be construed as making a play. I've been dealing too much with slackers recently; I want someone who has the balls to take a chance.
Replicant Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 As you know, I am a trash bag Then it cannot hurt to put yourself out there then and see if he collects.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Now that you've clarified it, I would call him with the excuse that you aren't crazy about texting or email.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 Now that you've clarified it, I would call him with the excuse that you aren't crazy about texting or email. Actually I'm deaf TBF, so I can't call him. That's why he called up to cancel my cards for me.
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Now that you've clarified it, I would call him with the excuse that you aren't crazy about texting or email. Now that's thinking outside the litter box. But, let's get real. Just send a text saying you would like to see him. And to text you back.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Actually I'm deaf TBF, so I can't call him. That's why he called up to cancel my cards for me. I'm sorry. I didn't know. Now...back to texting. "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise. Your suggestion to catch up, sounds good. :)"
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise. Your suggestion to catch up, sounds good. If you have the balls, that is. :)" That's perfect.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 How about, "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, and thanks again for being the high point of what was otherwise a pretty dire night. It would be nice to see you again." Yuck I hate that last line. :sick: Any other suggestions?
Green Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 How about, "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, and thanks again for being the high point of what was otherwise a pretty dire night. It would be nice to see you again." Yuck I hate that last line. :sick: Any other suggestions? "Hi A this is B I'd also like to see you again." Then you can pretty much leave the rest to him.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, it was a lovely surprise. Your suggestion to catch up, sounds good. :)" Perfecto!
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 How about, "Hi A, this is B. Thanks for your email, and thanks again for being the high point of what was otherwise a pretty dire night. It would be nice to see you again." I'd love to catch up soon - do you have any suggestions? Any other suggestions? No. Unless you want to mention his balls.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Perfecto! Glad you liked it. Balls are in his court.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 That's perfect. Yes I know I'm being a complete f*cktard about this, so thanks to everyone for even giving me the time of day about it.
Nemo Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Yes I know I'm being a complete f*cktard about this, so thanks to everyone for even giving me the time of day about it. But we didn't give you the time of day, f*cktard. Just remember to report any corruption to the relevant authorities, if you have the balls.
Trialbyfire Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 That's what I said, but not in cigar. No, it was in Nemo-ese, balls inclusive.
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