mortensorchid Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I was on a personals website a while back (won't mention which). I had met this man, we got to the point where we were talking on the phone, and he sounded alright, so we planned to meet. He was coming a bit of a distance, and I asked if he needed directions to the meeting place (a bar). He said "Oh no, I'll just put it in the computer and it'll be fine". So, I went to the appointed place right after work, and sat there waiting. And waiting. About twenty minutes later, I got a call on my cell. Turns out he had put the directions in the computer and he got the wrong place - this bar was a chain and he got the wrong address. He said "Don't worry! I'll be there soon! The guy over here told me how to get to where you are!". I said ok, let me know if you have any problems. Then, ANOTHER 20 minutes go by. I was steaming, when I get another call. I notice this call as well as the first one to tell me that he's lost are from two different numbers. He said "I'm sorry! I can't find the place!". I asked if he wanted me to stand outside and look for him, but he said "No, I'll be fine!". Then, I asked him why he was calling from another number, and he said HE DIDN'T HAVE A CELL PHONE HE WAS CALLING FROM GAS STATIONS WHERE HE WAS ASKING TO GET DIRECTIONS FROM. So then, I give it another 5, and decided I had had enough. I left. It took me about 45 minutes to get home from there, and when I got into the house, he called for a third time. I didn't pick it up. I was furious. How could someone be so unprepaired when they are going to drive any further than 20 miles away from their home?!?! But wait, there's more! So I figured I would never hear from him again. Months later, I get a call on my cell and it's him. I had deleted his name and number from my cell, so I didn't recognize it. He apologized for the mishap a while back. Since I had him on the phone, I told him I accepted his apology (and I did, enough time had passed). I did ask him if he ever found the place, he said he finally did find the place. Turns out he was circling the same street and never turned to look on the other side of the street to see the BIG BLUE NEON SIGN IN THE WINDOW. And he was quick to reassure me that he went out and bought a cell phone so there would never be a mix up like that again. I left the conversation a bit open ended, but did not agree to ever see him again. I told him I accepted his apology, but that was it. I did not plan to see him or speak further with him again. But he didn't give up! He kept calling me! I immediately set the number as Restricted. He would call the cell, then when I would let it roll over into voice mail. He never left a message! And then he would call from another number immediately after. Once I set those numbers at restricted, I would let calls roll into voice mail. HE NEVER LEFT A MESSAGE EVEN THOUGH HE CALLED BACK TO BACK FROM TWO DIFFERENT NUMBERS! And this went on - I am not kidding you - for six months! Finally, one day just recently, I picked up the phone from yet another call whose number I didn't recognize, and it was him. I finally simply said "Please don't call me anymore" and hung up. Haven't heard from him since. You'd think after all that time that he would have gotten the message. But, I guess some people are pretty dim. Or I'm just too forgiving to accept his first apology and he thought that I was opening the door for him.
Green Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 look I had an interent date where I drove 40 minutes from my place to a coffee shop that was with in walking distance of the girls house and she was 30 minutes late. stuff like that happens you shouldn't get so angry about this, you have a right not to want to date this guy, but atleast he stopped calling when you clearly told him to stop. he was pretty silly to keep calling over and over again but he may not relize it was anoying you and I personally hate leaving messages they always sound rambly
Krytie TV Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 Wow, OP, your spite for him does not seem at all congruent with the events that occured. In fact, I think that's downright selfish of you to bail on him like that after he had spent so long trying to get there, but whatever. Obviously, it is weird that he kept calling... but to be honest, I can see why someone would do what he did. If for no other reason thatn to annoy you for bailing on him and being so pretentious about the date events.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 Well, we only do what we can. Selfish? Well, I guess so. But it's the past and that was that. I for one think that it is very important to be on time and to be ready for an accident or disaster. And he wasn't. I still don't understand why he kept calling me for so many months after.
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