Lookingforward Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I had an online friendship with this guy from a chat room I used to frequent - we would spend literally hours every night iming each other - this went on for nearly a year. Then we had a spat over what I saw as his disrespecting me and our 'private' friendship in the chat room (that is, he was flirting a LOT with other females and not admitting we were talking privately). I got mad and said I was going to take a break - his last words were "you're upset over nothing - you have nothing to worry about'. When I returned from a 3 week 'break' it was to find my ims and emails were blocked and the only place I could talk to him anymore was in the chat room. I decided sc### that and left altogether and found other things to do. After about a year (guess he realised eventually I wasn't coming back) I get emails from him saying "I miss you, let's talk" so against my better judgement we started iming again. Now - about 3-4 weeks after resuming ims, I go to send him an email to find I've been blocked LMAO - I mean wtf ? The funny thing is - I really don't care apart from the "you A$%^&" aspect - when we started talking again I kinda realised all over again what a jerkoff he was, especially when he seemed to think that after an apology and a ty for letting us "reconnect again" we would just pick up where we left off. What do you think ? Would I be right in assuming this is some weird male ego trip thing ? That he's now 'proved' to himself that he could get me to talk to him again so now he can happily go NC ?
sid33 Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 it seems kind of odd that after a year of chatting online that there was no inperson meeting.Or was this just suppose to be a cyber friendship? I do not understand.
Author Lookingforward Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 no, purely cyber as far as I was concerned - he mentioned it a few times (the meeting someday) but I was still waiting for my D to become final and wasn't really sure I wanted to take it to that point anyway. I have several friends that are only online and have had them for years (kinda like electronic penpals lol) - not everyone chatting online is looking to "hookup" per se
Author Lookingforward Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 apparently no-one has any insights - oh well
Nevermind Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 What do you think ? Would I be right in assuming this is some weird male ego trip thing ? That he's now 'proved' to himself that he could get me to talk to him again so now he can happily go NC ? Yes, I think it might be. However, I do not understand why you were jealous when he talked to other women. You didn't have any intention to meet him, and it was "only" a cyber friendship. Was it because he was talking to them at the same time that he was talking to you?
Author Lookingforward Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 pretty much yes, plus the fact that HE was trying to take our friendship to the next level plus pretending he didn't talk to anyone outside the room blah blah yada yada ( he said to 'protect me' from innuendo etc lol) just the weirdest thing to get someone to talk to you again just to once again block them.... I guess the only reason I care at all is that it's sort of disrespectful plus leaves a nasty taste in my mouth re my own judgement calls......
Nevermind Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 I can understand, what you're feeling. It wasn't your fault. He was not worth your attention and you should try to forget him and the bitter taste in your mouth. You had him out of your life once already. You can do it again.
Author Lookingforward Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 yes, should have followed my first instinct when I got the "I miss you" emails - which was to say "so sad, too bad - have a nice life" LOL
AGENT 99 Posted May 28, 2008 Posted May 28, 2008 LF, I think this guy sounds like a creep .You dodged a huge bullet here. Seriously if he plays these games online, how much better could in get IRL? I can understand how you can form an attachment online though... but to play these kinds of games with someone you have never even MET...seems kind off to me, ya know? He blatanatly dsrepected you and your wishes...that in itself speaks volumes. I wouldn't even sweat it.Just know you probably avoided a LOT of drama...so he did YOU a favor.Trust me!!!
Author Lookingforward Posted May 28, 2008 Author Posted May 28, 2008 LF, I think this guy sounds like a creep .You dodged a huge bullet here. Seriously if he plays these games online, how much better could in get IRL? I can understand how you can form an attachment online though... but to play these kinds of games with someone you have never even MET...seems kind off to me, ya know? He blatanatly dsrepected you and your wishes...that in itself speaks volumes. I wouldn't even sweat it.Just know you probably avoided a LOT of drama...so he did YOU a favor.Trust me!!! LOL I'm sure he did - the more I think about it, the creepier it feels - with "friends " like that, who needs enemies ? So it looks like some do "come back" - just not the ones you wish would
Author Lookingforward Posted June 16, 2008 Author Posted June 16, 2008 okay - this is STILL pixxing me off (not as a day to day thing, just once in a while I find myself thinking about it) I think what irks me is this "normal" cowardly way to end stuff online - by blocking my email I can't even tell him what a lowlife sleazebucket I think he is.
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