treelover Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I've posted my story here, but I don't think I stated that I thought my hub had an affair some 15 years ago. I need some thoughts as to whether it may or may not have been. My daughter was trying on her father's leather jacket one evening because she had been begging him to buy her one (he wouldn't and didn't). Anyway, she put her hands in the pockets and pulled out a strip of condoms. There were 11 of them; she looked at me and said "Mom, you and Dad don't use condoms, do you?" I had had my tubes tied 9 years before so why use anything? After my amazed facial expression faded, she said they come in packs of 12, not 11. I got kind of suspicious and went snooping. I found a post-it with a phone number, written in feminie handwriting, and I looked over the past credit card bills and found a flower purchase. When I presented these things to hub, these were the excuses: the missing condom was put into a wedding card for someone at work - why not all 12?; the flowers were for a woman at work who was leaving, although he NEVER charged anything on the card, unless it was an emergency or something for himself and I certainly didn't get the flowers; I never got an explanation for the phone number. My daughters, then 12 and 17, had urged me to call the number to see who it was, but I guess I just didn't want to even think that he could be cheating on me. What are your thoughts, please. Was I being blind? Thanks. Jo
Art_Critic Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 What are your thoughts, please. Was I being blind? My thoughts are that he is cheating on you.. my other thought say to call the number and have a conversation with whoever answers.. and for gods sake.. at this point you need to keep your children out of the general knowledge of this.. I understand your daughter found the condoms and by default it puts her in the middle but right now as the parent you need to emotionally protect your children.
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