adorablebabiii Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 Hello LS, I have been dating this guy for 3-4 months. Everything started out good. His world then became crashing down on him, he lost his job, got tickets with fines he could not pay, car got towed, he can no longer pay his rent, he has disconnect notices everywhere, he has no income coming in, thats just to name a few. Well, i told him i would help him with what i could. He really wanted to get his car out of the impound so he could go look for a job. I told him that i would be able to help him this coming friday with getting his car out. Well he broke it down about how much he needed it because of his son, he has no income coming in etc.. So i went home and thought about it and i took the Money out of my account this past Saturday (didnt tell him anything) Well i was calling him Saturday all day pretty much and he didnt want to be bothered with me, so i said forget it and put the Money back into my account on Sunday morning before work. Well Sunday he wanted to have this "talk" to make us work etc.. So i went over there on Sunday after work and we talked about everything, got everything out. He stated that i dont help him etc.. So i had mentioned the money i had taken out for him Saturday but because he didnt want to be bothered i put it back.. Well he wanted me to go take it back out of my account and i told him No, he could wait til Friday. Of course this made a big deal and started an argument AGAIN about me lying to him, i dont want to help him etc.. I stated to him that i did want to help him, and i was going to help him but he would have to wait til friday when i get a check... well i then became a liar, weak minded, dumb, etc... I told him... if i wouldnt have told you i took the money out Saturday... you wouldnt have known and you were fine waiting til Friday, so whats so different now. Looong story short. We broke up! Thank god! I was every thing under the sun. I dont really care about the break up because i can do so much better plus my money can stay in my pocket!! LoL!!! But my question is... why if i dont say "yes" right then or do what he wants right then, why am i liar??? Or im wasting his time? Why does he try to make me feel bad and say i dont want to help him etc... any opinions please.....
Author adorablebabiii Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 opinions greatly appreciated.... anybody??
Nevermind Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 You broke up and you're glad about it. Rightly so! He just called you a liar to make you feel bad, to get you into a corner and make you cave in to his wishes. It was a trick, nothing else. Happily, you did not fall for it.
curiousnycgirl Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 You should thank G-d above that you were able to walk away. Wow what a total loser *********! Ruoghly 7 months into our relationship my b/f lost his job - and since has started his own company. In the 3.5 years since losing his job he has NEVER expected my help and has been very appreciative of the help I do give. Having said that I have never paid his mortgage, utilities, insurance, etc in other words none of the necessities. I have chosen to pay for the extras. (OK those of you who know me know that I did pay for a lawyer for a DWI - but that was well into the relationship). This guy sounds irresponsible and selfish at best. I'm glad you were able to walk away. I wouldn't waste any time trying to figure out his behaviour - it's just not worth it.
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