borelandkaren Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I just saw an old thread asking, "Do they ever realise what they threw away?" Surely they can't. If someone tells u they love you, why do they just let u walk away? This is just one of those ones' I'm having a problem with. I did things with my partner that I just know that others would not do and he didn't appreciate it. I'm a 42 year old woman who worked in the concrete with my ex for 5 1/2 years. I know of 3 other women who do this with their husbands. Why the hell would he let me just walk away. Surely I was worth more than stubborn narcissistic pride? This is why I'm finding it hard to move on. I did everything for him, worked my body to the bone and now....nothing. I'm moving but it's a slow process....
sedgwick Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 I don't think they realize. Mine doesn't, anyway. I mean, I was such an awesome gf, I know for sure I was, he told me I treated him better than anyone he'd ever dated. And yet still he walked away. So no, I don't think he realized at all.
Author borelandkaren Posted May 27, 2008 Author Posted May 27, 2008 I don't think they realize. Mine doesn't, anyway. I mean, I was such an awesome gf, I know for sure I was, he told me I treated him better than anyone he'd ever dated. And yet still he walked away. So no, I don't think he realized at all. My mother would call them "ijits" and they are. Maybe we just do too much for them. I did everything for this man, not for recognition. I just simply loved him. I wanted to be there for everything. I wanted to build a life with him and when I said no to him he just discarded me. I could have turned it around this time and let us just get back together like we'd done so many times but I just knew that things would never change and that I'd only live half a life. I just can't do that anymore. U know what Sedgwick? Your musician wasn't worthy of you. You know this. Any man worth his salt would cherish you, girl. And tell me? Why is he more worthy in his eyes because he is a musician? I've often wondered this when I've been reading your posts?
Karyyk Posted May 27, 2008 Posted May 27, 2008 You always hope that they'll miss what they had, or at least realize everything you did for them, but that doesn't seem to be the case. My situation is different, in that I initiated the "break-up," but in her mind we weren't what I thought we had been for years, and despite everything we shared, it didn't seem like any amount of time was going to change that. I could have held on longer, but what was the point? I'd given of myself so fully and for so long, I literally had nothing left to give. Even the heart of one who truly loves can give out when it receives nothing from the object of its affection. I gave my all for her, set my life back at least 6 years, supported her, etc. and sometimes I wonder if she appreciated any of it. Instead, it seemed like she was more angry than anything else, but maybe that's to be expected.
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